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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What's the deal guys?

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shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 21:23

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

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Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 13:28

CassOle · 19/02/2026 13:05

Decent people obey the law.

No one is shocked that you are demonstrating that you are not a decent person.

No one is shocked that you are demonstrating that you are not a decent person

I think there will be some reading along who will be shocked at the response.

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 13:30

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:07

it isn't my accusation.

I said race realists share the sincerely held belief that their race-based knowledge must be adopted by the world. Just as sex realists share the sincerely held belief that their sex-based knowledge must also be adopted by the world.

Not overlapping knowledge, but specific knowledge of a very critical nature.

Oh well yes the whole the natives needed the great white hunter Tarzan and Jane to tell them how babies were made.

Nothing at all racist about that little gem😬

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 19/02/2026 13:31

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:03

✔ Your request is considered
✔ I am sad to say your request has been denied

Please resubmit in 5-7 weeks.

100% male entitlement, clearly demonstrated, @onepostwonder.

And I am willing to bet that the world does not move around you as a woman. At best, people pretend you are a woman either because they are afraid of your reactions or other TRA’s reactions if they do not ‘affirm’ your ‘identity’.

Your clear and obvious lack of any concern for the privacy, dignity, safety or rights of women demonstrates your maleness beyond all doubt. Women care about other women. Men only care about themselves. You only care about yourself. QED.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:31

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 12:49

Nope. That is not correct.

But it does reveal much about what some people think a woman is - basically a man without a willy.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:39

The Cass report and the courts have concluded that it is unethical to give treatment to a child if they cannot understand the consequences, but from this thread, many adults don’t understand the meaning of sex or the limits of ‘gender affirming care’ either, which I think calls into question the ethics of adult treatment.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 19/02/2026 13:39

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:31

But it does reveal much about what some people think a woman is - basically a man without a willy.

Woman defined as a ‘lack’ innit.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:41

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 19/02/2026 13:39

Woman defined as a ‘lack’ innit.

The fact that males with dsds do not develop a female reproductive system goes over their heads. A woman is just a hole.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 19/02/2026 13:54

Terra nullis. No one is really using womanhood, or no one important anyway, so it’s fine for these male colonisers to come and plant their flag on it.

the solipsism of role playing as a member of the opposite sex is fairly mind boggling really.

Myalternate · 19/02/2026 14:02

I'm going to exist, whether i talk about it here or just go about my life.

Of course you exist! You admitted you were trans.
You exist as a trans person that believes in what can only be described as a fantasy world.

No woman transitions to become a woman. We were born female.
We don’t need any radical surgery to become women. We were born female.
We are women because we were born female.
We don’t require validation.
WE ARE WOMEN.

The13thFairy · 19/02/2026 14:06

Alucard55 · 17/02/2026 22:09

Do you think he was expecting questions about lipstick and how he "lives as a woman"?

I think so. It's tedious though ~ if he had anything interesting to say, we'd have noticed it by now.

EuclidianGeometryFan · 19/02/2026 14:10

shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 22:09

I don't mean to be rude but does your username have a meaning?

But how else am I supposed to take it when it personally effects me?

I've been going to therapy a lot recenlty for what I've been through. I wouldn't want someone to tell you that what you've went through didn't happen or it's all made up. It's honestly awful.

Just because something affects you personally, it doesn't mean you have to take it personally.
The tax on petrol affects me personally. But it is not aimed at me - it is aimed at all motorists. I don't take it personally. I don't imagine that the politicians are doing this to me deliberately because of who I am.

Women want to keep spaces free from biological males. That may affect you personally, but it is not aimed at you as an individual, it is aimed at all males, so don't take it personally.

If you can't understand this, please do keep up with the therapy, because life will be very hard for you if you mistakenly take all sorts of things personally.

ChequerToRed · 19/02/2026 14:11

Well, hasn't this just been fascinating.
A few observations based on my keeping a step back and looking at the overall picture:
The old adage that ‘On the internet, nobody knows you’re really a dog’ very much applies here, and tbh I don’t actually believe a word Onepostwindup has said about themselves. We’re supposed to believe that they’ve moved around in three different countries on falsified documents and this has seemingly never caused them any problems whatsoever. On the slim chance that this is actually true and they’re living in the UK, I’d just like to inform them that falsifying immigration documents can potentially carry heavy fines and even a 10 year prison sentence as per the Identity Documents 2010 Act, especially as they also claim to not have a GRC so not even that (much mentioned) legal fiction applies here.
Their mother is apparently a scientist. How handy!
They’re a teeny-tiny smol bean who’s wittle gurly peets are too small for men’s shoes.

It’s all incredibly convenient, so much so that one might be tempted to conclude that it’s all a complete fabrication, and that this individual is about as real as Tinkerbell.

My chin is itchy. Anyone else here got a really itchy chin?
I’m not including stubble rash in that.

CassOle · 19/02/2026 14:25

Yes, I think that the Billy Goats Gruff might be wondering what is under the bridge after reading all that.

EdithStourton · 19/02/2026 14:28

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:16

I'm going to exist, whether i talk about it here or just go about my life.

Sex realists will create their own wild interpretations of simple statments and contextualise people's experiences into unrecognisable scenarios. I'm still learning.

Well, at least you admit that we're sex REALISTS.

Have we stopped talking about clothes? I have a selection of middle-aged garments.

Hedgehogforshort · 19/02/2026 14:29

My chin is itchy i was plucking my post menopausal hair out of it whilst reading all the guff being spouted on here (well one has to multi task)

if i am to be believed 😀

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2026 14:35

DeanElderberry · 19/02/2026 12:27

Hush, people have exercised massive restraint about that.

So far.

Shakira Hips GIF by Latin GRAMMYs

Well, ffs, its laugh at it or waste my time indulging in utter gibberish.

You can't change sex, lads. Soz.

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2026 14:38

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 19/02/2026 13:31

100% male entitlement, clearly demonstrated, @onepostwonder.

And I am willing to bet that the world does not move around you as a woman. At best, people pretend you are a woman either because they are afraid of your reactions or other TRA’s reactions if they do not ‘affirm’ your ‘identity’.

Your clear and obvious lack of any concern for the privacy, dignity, safety or rights of women demonstrates your maleness beyond all doubt. Women care about other women. Men only care about themselves. You only care about yourself. QED.

To be fair, they do enjoy trying to wind women up.

Crap hobby, I'd say, but eh. Each to his own.

FranticFrankie · 19/02/2026 14:42

It would have been obvious to most of us that 1post isn't a female woman/uterus-haver, XX type person

The posting style, the replies, the assumed, self styled 'superiority', the patronising comments; these are all absolute and complete giveaways of a male poster. Easy to recognise once you've been around these parts a while

Might as well say "You silly wims, you're all wrong, back in your box" (I may well climb in, assuming the said box is a female woman/uterus-haver, XX type person only space)

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 14:42

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2026 14:35

Well, ffs, its laugh at it or waste my time indulging in utter gibberish.

You can't change sex, lads. Soz.

I fear for that young woman's sacro-iliacs😁
Is that Shakira?

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 14:43

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:41

The fact that males with dsds do not develop a female reproductive system goes over their heads. A woman is just a hole.

Yep.

A hole in the groin to fuck.

What was it that was said about women...

In fact, to be a sissy is always to lose your mind. The technical term for this is bimboification. Captions often instruct viewers to submit themselves to hypnosis, brainwashing, brain-melting, dumbing down, and other techniques for scooping out intelligence. "Why do I like the concept of being a bimbo?" asks one user.

The gestures most often looped in GIF format almost always register the evacuation of will: wilting faces, trembling legs, eyes rolled back into heads. Even the GIF format itself communicates this, a kind of centrifuge for distilling the femaleness to its barest essentials- an open mouth, an expectant asshole, blank, blank eyes.’ Andrea Long Chu

or like Lavery

"There is something about being treated like shit by men that feels like affirmation itself, like a cry of delight from the deepest cavern of my breast ..."

Reducing women to being someone who has never penetrated anyone is as misogynistic as fuck and there is no way to explain the statement that was made to not be that reduction.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 14:44

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 13:41

The fact that males with dsds do not develop a female reproductive system goes over their heads. A woman is just a hole.

I would also add that having a higher risk of breast cancer because you are a man taking exogenous hormones is a side effect of medication, not evidence that you are female.

FranticFrankie · 19/02/2026 14:45

CassOle · 19/02/2026 14:25

Yes, I think that the Billy Goats Gruff might be wondering what is under the bridge after reading all that.

Hmmm - may I be forward/bold enough to refer you to my previous post which mentions my poor arthritic wrists?

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2026 14:49

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 14:42

I fear for that young woman's sacro-iliacs😁
Is that Shakira?

It is! The hips don't lie!

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2026 14:54

I love the company of women. In all the complexity, and subtlety, hilarity and snappiness of it.

I dont care what lengths men have gone to, or what bollocks they tell themself to try and convince themself otherwise, men will never know what it is to be a woman. It is the very definition of an impossibility.

inkymoose · 19/02/2026 14:55

shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 22:03

The thing is guys, so am I. But I can't talk about it. If I open up and tell you what I've experienced I'll be ridiculed, denied and it's exhausting. I get what women experience, which again, I'll be told I don't. And that's my point, I'm not allowed to fight for women as much as I'm not allowed to fight for myself. I don't know how to explain it. It doesn't matter what I say, I won't be listened to. I do understand why safety is a serious requirement and I want it for everyone. Not just myself. For my girlfriend, for my mum, for my sister, for my friends, for young girls and young boys. I'm just not taken seriously when I say it

But OP, you said in your original post: "If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do".
Now you're saying "I can't talk about it".
Either you are willing to answer some honest questions or you are unable to talk about it. You can't be in both positions at the same time.

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