I agree that trans women shouldn't be allowed in women's sports and I also think that only TW who have transitioned socially and medically (via hormones if not surgery) should be allowed in loos and changing rooms. I do not agree with self-ID and I think that a completed transition should be required to get a GC. By that I mostly mean a completed hormonal and social transition. Doesn't have to be surgery.
The GC lobby won't have it, but the hormone treatment turns men effectively into women for all practical purposes like safety. It dampens sex drive and gets rid of much muscle, replacing it with fat. (This is according to the "Feminising Therapy" page of The Mayo Clinic, which is the world's no. 1 hospital.)
I do NOT want to share sports or women-only spaces with big hairy regular men. However, I do not perceive any threat from the transitioned women whose photos I'm posting below as examples. They're post-hormones and I would never in a million years know that they were born men. To me, TW like this are as good as women when it comes to deciding who gets to use single spaces.
Where the hate comes in is this: The anti-trans lobby would NOT accept the women below in loos and changing rooms. They would tell them to use the men's, where they would be vulnerable to assault by regular men. I cannot imagine feeling threatened by the women posted below, and you wouldn't have a clue that they had been born men anyway.
Regular men shouldn't be allowed in women's spaces. The TW posted below are not regular men, and to tell them to go to men-only spaces is, in my view, hate. I mean just look at them - it's ridiculous to treat them like regular men and to view them in the same way as regular men.
They are genuine trans women. No bad actor would take all the hormones and make himself look so feminine and have a mastectomy and grow his hair and look SO much like a biological woman simply for the purposes of using the women's loos and changing rooms! To be against TW such as these is hate imo, but it's not hate to want to keep out regular men who want to self-ID into women's spaces.
This is a common sense viewpoint - no to non-transitioned men but yes to TW who are post-transition - but again, the anti-trans lobby won't have it. They are very authoritarian and want to send women like the ones in the photos below back to the men's spaces, and some of them, when you put forward this distinction, attack you for not being as intolerant and extreme as them.