I'm on the app and I'm not sure how to look at dms there but I'll check in a bit when I'm on my laptop. Thank you.
I find I can log in on desktop on my phone to access messages, outside the app.
I hope you managed to have
a lovely afternoon and the venue was what you were hoping for!
So glad mn helped you leave your abusing relationship. 
I learnt all about key points of abuse from here, Lundy Bancroft etc and was able to support several close friends going through abuse and coercion with that info.