Found Anti-Depressants in sons room

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Hey!

I was cleaning my sons room hes not long back from moving back into our house from university, I found anti-depressant medications. He has not mentioned anything to me or my husband about any problems that he has been having. What should I do?

Fi

Nothing. He's an adult and entitled to medical privacy.

Did he know you'd be cleaning his room & were the anti-depressants in plain sight, or hidden?

I'm just wondering whether he could reasonably have known that you'd be likely to see them.

No, I asked him to clean his room so when he was out I cleaned it for him. They was in a draw and I noticed them when I was putting stuff away.

You don't do anything.

he's an adult
don't say anything
if he wants to tell you, then he will.

Be proud that he's been and sought help for how he is feeling.

Not. A. Thing.

I would rather him come and talk to us then sneaking in medication into the house. I have a younger son who could have picked them up.

Your younger son would have to have invaded your older ones room and searched through a draw.

Come and talk to you? I don't understand. You mean ask your permission to bring his medication into his own home and put in his own drawer?

Sneaking medication into the house? For goodness sake. Good on him for seeking help. And maybe rethink how you treat his privacy

If he is feeling depressed or whatever then he should have come and talked to me or his dad. I don't like the thought of him just taking medication all the time.

How old is your younger son?

He is 11

He's not 'just' taking medication all the time.

HE'S TAKEN SOMETHING PRESCIBED BY A DOCTOR TO HELP HIM.

HE IS AN ADULT!

It is anti depressants that i assume is in an 18+ bedroom drawer he id entitled to privacy he didn't sneak heroin in your younger son should have no need to rake through his brothers things. Btw i can see you are hurt that he didn't speak to you but least he went to the dr lots of young folk don't especially young men.

Why does he HAVE to talk to you? Maybe he's not ready yet. It's up to him who he tells and when. Yes it would be nice if he could talk to you but it's probably taken a lot of courage to go to the GP in the first place.

How old is your other child?

Your attitude sounds like the reason he feels the need to 'hide' it, he doesn't have to discuss everything with you and there will be a reason he hasn't. I never felt I could talk to my parents about my depression because of their attitudes towards mental health.

He is 11

Does he know to leave medication alone?

Sneaking medication into the house
Do u discuss ur medical history with all persons in the house and gain their consent prior to sneaking in ur own medication?
Close the drawer. Shut the door and do nothing!!

Id say that you remember being his age and tgere are a lot of pressures, it's not always as easy as people make it look. See if he opens up.

Seriously, cool it. He is being a responsible adult. He recognised an issue and he sorted it.

Stop treating him like he's 14.

I think you could talk to him sensitively. You know, you are there if he ever needs to talk, if not you understand. Then respect if he doesn't. I found my sister's medication by accident, I did the above and she broke down and wanted support. She had been suppressing it and didn't want to be a "burden" when all she needed was to know we would support her. However, I am not sure what you mean by "sneaking" medication in. He wasn't.

If he feels like he can't come and talk to you wouldn't you rather he got support than struggling alone? Try to show a little more support and interest in his life but stay away from the medication. He's an adult, treat him as one.

He's 11 not a toddler! Tell your 11 year old never to help himself to any drugs or medication if he finds any.