Was shocked to discover my 13 year old son is having sex with his girlfriend. They've been doing it in his bedroom, even though I said door must remain open. Pleased they are using condoms but said no way are they doing it here. She's not allowed to have him at her house and her parents are strict (her dad doesn't even know she has a boyfriend). They did it again, in my parents house (my dad caught them), then my husband caught them in my other son's room at it. I went round and told her mother. Although it was a bit tricky as she (the mother) doesn't speak English, although she understood me alright when I introduced myself and told her they were having sex. I thought she had the right to know. I have a 10yr old daughter and i would want to know. Plus I felt I was dealing with this alone and wasn't sure what to to/how to deal with it. I told the GF I wanted her to talk to her mum about the pill and I was worried an accident might happen. Cross with my son for being so blatant and not seeming to care where he does it, even though I don't condone it, I'm realistic to know they are not going to stop even though they can't do it here. She is no longer allowed here. Not really sure how to deal with it, how to deal with him. Any advice? thanks
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ROCKQUEEN · 24/04/2014 23:53
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Okay, as horrifying as it is that they are doing this at such a young age, I think banning them from doing it in your home was the wrong choice.
Don't get me wrong they shouldn't be doing it at all and no way would I want that happening under my roof!! But rather in a safe place than not.
You need to have a serious talk about the consequences of his actions. It's all very well talking about STD's and pregnancy but kids don't take it seriously because they just don't understand that these consequences can and do happen! Me and my other half recorded our son screaming and said we'll play it multiple times during the night if we ever get a whiff of anything like this going on!
the trouble with teenagers is that they're rebellious by nature so anything you tell them not to do, they're going to do.
You need to tell him he's not to see her. If possible take him right to the school door and pick him up at the school door. You have to put a stop to this somehow or another. Or if you aren't going to 
then they need to protect themselves and you're going to have to let it happen under your roof unless you want them doing it on the street which is one of the way this could actually be worse!!
There was a reason her "strict" parents didn't let your son do round...
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