I am NOT enjoying choosing my wedding dress - pics

[Pinkarsedfly]

I’m getting married on my 45th birthday, in just a couple of weeks - and I’m so excited.

Except I’m at my fattest. Ever. And suddenly who I feel I am inside doesn’t match what’s in the mirror.

I simply can’t find a dress that suits me.

I keep thinking I’ve found ‘the one’ - then I see the pics and just feel I look heinous, and back it goes.

If I show the pics, can anyone out there give me honest feedback, make suggestions etc?

It’s a tiny registry office wedding followed by a nice dinner after.

TIA

The red dress you just posted is beautiful. Please buy it and a couple of others in a similar style but in different colours.

You’re going to look fab!x

Just ploughing in to agree with all the PPs. You seriously, honestly, have a lovely figure. So in proportion. If I were you I'd go into John Lewis or somewhere like that and get a personal shopper, they will be able to pull things that suit you, that you might not choose yourself. And dresses can look so different on than on a skeletal model online.

You will look stunning on your day, congratulations!!

I might go into John Lewis then - do I have to make an appointment for a personal shopper?

I don’t think the red dress is low cut at all!

Yes you do need to make an appointment. I’d phone up and tell hem your wedding is in two weeks! They’ll fit you in as an emergency.

Honestly OP, as you're giving so many different types of dresses a go I would try some things you wouldn't normally choose, I really think you'd look fabulous in something with a bit more structure.

I understand where you're coming from on wanting to waft. If always wanted to be able to pull off those terribly chic cigarette type trousers with a giant hat and big sunglasses like I'm sunning myself on the French Riviera! Sadly I look like I'm in fancy dress in that sort of thing!

I have just had a quick look on next... these dresses are lovely and that's only a few of them. Have you scanned through eBay or schpock. (That is of you don't mind seconds...) personally it wouldnt bother me

I'd possibly rather buy something second hand rather than risking something from China as I've had a few dresses from the A's they were cheap and my gosh they can be shocking

www.johnlewis.com/appointments/personal-styling/shops?appointmentTypeId=61847

Book here

Yes, get on the phone to JL for an urgent personal shopper appointment!

I would pack up the dresses you have and take them to a good (independent if you can find one) underwear shop and see what they look like with a bit of help underneath.

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How exciting! I can't wait to see the next lot.

The Outnet can often have some gems too

Not sure what your budget is, I might have missed it. And sorry if I'm linking to sites/dresses already suggested, it's such a long thread I can't remember everything.

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/biba/biba-leoprd-kmno-drs-ld93-650614#colcode=65061499

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/biba/biba-crchet-mxi-drs-ld92-650754#colcode=65075416 this comes in a bright coral as well.

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/biba/rose-printed-velvet-midi-dress-ar6344#colcode=ar634400 maybe too wintery but I love this.

www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-alba-print-maxi-dress-grey/p4025624

www.johnlewis.com/french-connection-cari-maxi-bridal-dress-summer-white/p3443779 very bridal - too much?

www.karenmillen.com/frnchs/womens/occasion-wear/floral-lace-dress/020540.html?cgid=occasion&dwvar_020540_color=52&position=30#page=3&start=30&categoryID=occasion

www.karenmillen.com/frnchs/clothing/dresses/pleated-floral-maxi-dress/020616.html?dwvar_020616_color=83&position=21&cgid=dresses#page=2&start=21&categoryID=dresses not sure whether you could wear this colour but it's beautiful.

www.reiss.com/rw/p/printed-midi-dress-with-side-split-womens-emmi-in-multi-white-cream/?category_id=1121&gaEeList=W%20-%20Dresses

www.harveynichols.com/brand/diane-von-furstenberg/321981-keira-bordeaux-satin-midi-wrap-dress/p3453429/

www.harveynichols.com/brand/three-floor/303163-wrapsody-rose-silk-blend-dress/p3353712/

www.harveynichols.com/brand/diane-von-furstenberg/314287-alice-floral-print-silk-chiffon-wrap-dress/p3417948/ I love this

www.harveynichols.com/brand/philosophy-di-alberta-ferretti-/311697-printed-satin-twill-dress/p3398354/ gorgeous but expensive

www.harveynichols.com/brand/kitri-studio/327650-minka-rose-print-tea-dress/p3474756/ really pretty and a great price but a difficult colour?

www.harveynichols.com/brand/nicole-farhi-/313049-blush-celia-silk-frill-kimono-dress/p3409187/ not a great photo but I have a hunch it would be lovely

www.harveynichols.com/brand/boo-pala-london/293702-lilac-dream-dress/p3284591/ this could be one of those things that looks AMAZING in the flesh

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/karen-millen/peplum-hem-lace-dress-ab1125#colcode=ab112500

This is a nice website, lots on here and they do each style in loads of different colours/fabrics:

www.prettyeccentric.co.uk/clothing-c3/dresses-c4/agatha-dress-in-ruby-red-velvet-p3374#attribute%5B1%5D=1

www.prettyeccentric.co.uk/clothing-c3/dresses-c4/yasmin-dress-in-olivia-stretch-lace-p2636#attribute%5B1%5D=70

www.prettyeccentric.co.uk/clothing-c3/dresses-c4/dita-dress-in-giselle-lace-p2632#attribute%5B1%5D=83

www.prettyeccentric.co.uk/clothing-c3/dresses-c4/sable-dress-in-hydrangea-print-p3429#attribute%5B1%5D=3

www.fenwick.co.uk/women/clothing/dresses/my-girl-dress/0000574460-Multi.html?cgid=fenwick-website-4102-4129-4234&dwvar_0000574460-Multi_color=Multi#sc=0&start=6

If you are going to John Lewis make sure it's a really big branch or they won't have the full range.

Dress 3 is AMAZING! I can't believe others dont like it

That second dress you were wearing looked lovely.

I love the red dress you showed but not sure if was really a wedding dress, lovely though.

Sounds like you have loads of options, and OP, you're beautiful so stop stressing, you are going to look amazing!

I love dress 3 too, but I do agree with pink that it makes her boobs into a bit of a shelf.

Absolutely do get a personal shopper, as someone said up thread their eyes will see the real you, what to disguise and what to enhance. Tell them how you feel in your head, exactly what you like and more importantly, don’t like and how you want to feel, then let them work some magic. I think you’ll be surprised and you’ll certainly get to try things you wouldn’t have looked at.

Very best of luck, I’m wishing you a wonderful day and even better new married life

Pink I reckon try the bombshell one, the Reiss cream lace and the similar Karen millen one.

Now I'm nosy OP. You said you don't have small feet and I love your shoes so can I ask what size they are? Tell me to p off if ya want (I have biiiiig feet)

If you want floaty get something with a floaty skirt but fitted top half. Much more flattering, and you can waft beautifully while showing off your waist.

Oh OP you have a lovely, lovely figure. I am a similar size to you and your photos made me feel so much better. Because at 13st we are constantly told on here and other sites we must be massive heffalumps, but you have a lovely figure.

I got married last year at 40. I didn't want a big dress because I was 39 and 2 dcs and we were only having a small do and blah blah blah.

I found my frock in a charity shop in the end. Big fuck off flouncy number.

My best advice is spend a decent amount on underwear. It made a massive difference. My underwear cost as much as my dress, a bustier from Bravissimo but it made me feel amazing before I even had my dress on.

Sorry all - having an elderly mum - related emergency.

Will report back later when parcels have arrived though!

OP - I think this one would suit your style.
You could change the white grosgrain ribbon around the waist, to a red grosgrain one to match your shoes.

www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/phase-eight/cressida-wedding-dress-yc8776?gclid=CjwKCAjwndvlBRANEiwABrR32KRlBEVp-ietHt-brypnpMjwHsrMu-z4z6Ud7K_Tvb9ysx3Ea1ryKxoCPEcQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#colcode=yc877600?istCompanyId=fd9c3f44-602b-46fe-8661-6b9a750107b9&istItemId=-iilmtrapl&istBid=t

I'm not sure if my link worked but this is the Reiss dress I meant.