I too am interested to see what op comes up with, methinks the following tools are perhaps missing from her current wardrobe;
fully fitted basque / slip, marilyn munro are great for curvy support and you need the right scaffolding to cease fearing strapless
Tit tape, to cement the lot to ya
A great seamstress because most clothes will not fit properly off the peg and you would be truly amazed at how many more styles will be available to you with just a little tailoring - a good stitchbitch will suggest alterations you may not have thought of so go with an open mind!
accessories to help tailor to your shape, belts and safety pins are your friend, be proud of norkage
I took ages to suss that clothes aren't made my shape and wish someone had told me about all of this sooner!
hoping your fairy godmother shows up soon...