Wanksock, thanks for the link, I think that dress is a little dark for me but it's the kind of style I've gone for before and I think suits me.
Nicecupoftea thanks for the offer but I know the bridesmaids are wearing blue so trying to avoid that.
Pink and molly, thankyou! All these little comments are really making me feel better :)
Geordie I may take you up on that offer!
Lilly, will definately try that shop, thankyou!
Jacks, where are you? Maybe someone is near you who fancies a shopping trip.
Jan, that's not a colour I'd normally go for but I'm being far more open to different things after all the help I've had on here so i'll see if I can try it on in my size.
In other news I've ordered a few things to try on and am watching a few things on ebay inspired by spids who was very patient and helpful into the early hours of the morning :)
I also tried a few things on in oasis just to get an idea for styles and shapes that might suit so I could re scour the internet.
I tried oasis 1 because it was stripey like the one I liked on nap! It was too fussy and a little large on me.
oasis 2 which isn't a colour I'd normally try but I thought the looser shape was similar to some I'd liked online. I didn't like the waist tie but it actually looked way better on that I'd have imagined.
oasis 3 was another style and colour I'd never have tried on but I think actually suited me. It was too high on the neck, a bit baggy around the chest area and not a pattern I'd be comfortable wearing but I could see that the style looked good on.
I also went to ted baker and karen millen, nothing that suited but my horizons have been widened and I'm feeling more positive and like I CAN feel good, I just need to find the right thing for my shape.