AIBU dss is trying to change the cats name

[SnowWhitesSM]

I am so flipping irritated. He told dh a few weeks ago he was changing the cats name. Dh didn't really pay any attention. He kept on with it and a couple of weeks ago I said (very nicely) that we can't change the cats name as he answers to his name and it will confuse him. Dh said to dss he can give him that name as a nickname.

Tonight he keeps correcting anyone who calls the cats bloody name. I'm not sure why I'm so irritated 😤

I think I need to find lots of things to keep me occupied until Monday morning

[quote SnowWhitesSM]@nevergoesaway I'm not getting into slagging off dss dm but yes her behaviour with that and other things makes for unbelievable reading.

I also understand that I'm BU for finding this annoying. I know dss doesn't have it easy, I'm well aware of that but I am finding his need to control lots of little things hard work. I will fill my own cup up and try my best to stop letting it get to me.[/quote]
Oh that sounds awful, your poor SS and poor you guys having to deal with that. I can’t bear it when parents let their personal feelings towards their ex dictate how they parent their child, a child’s best interests should always be put above any grudges or resentment.

And I honestly do understand your annoyance at the situation, he definitely shouldn’t be telling others to call the cat a different name, but I do still feel bad for him and almost find it cute in a way!

I think you’re doing fine, OP. And getting him the much-wanted bearded dragon is a lovely thing.

Could you focus on names for that?

It must be very hard if he feels he has to lie to his mother about having a nice time with you. That’s very sad. Sounds like you’re doing a great job.