High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

news flash

DS slept from10pm until 5.30am. Flipping hell!

How are you Joyful?

Oh Joyful, please don't feel you have to go away because you're struggling! You should definitely have a safe place to offload and get support right now, which such a difficult time as you're having. Really glad you're going to the Dr, I really hope that you can get some help. I'm sure that you're just beyond exhausted and anyone's mental health would suffer under such circumstances.

I wish I could come up with some magic, baby-settling ideas so that you could at the very least, get a bit more rest. No Cry Sleep Solution is pretty good, though we just started a few weeks ago and half the time I don't keep up with sleep logs as I am so tired.

Hope everyone else is doing well, sounds like it was a slightly more restful night for some, that's great!

Oh hell, today I feel like even a worse mum than usual! DD is 6 months today, so I introduced solids - baby rice with aptamil formula (DD is bf but I am shit at expressing even when I get the time, which is never) and apple puree. She had had the most horrid allergic reaction to something, broken out in rash all over her face and neck. Breathing fine though. GP says not to worry.

I have suspected she has CMA as her reflux always got so much worse after the odd bottle (have to give them sometimes when I have migraine and have to take sumatriptan). But I was never able to see a change in DD when dairy was eliminated from my diet for a month or two, or gradually reintroduced, so wasn't sure.

Just posted in allergies so hopefully will get some advice there.

Mitsouko oooh you poor love, I hope BabyMit is doing okay now. Really scary when that happens :( Hope you get some advice lady.

Raspberry These babies do like to surprise us!

DS slept beautifully last night. Bed at 7.30pm, up at 7am. Not a squeak in between. I am so proud of him. And sooo grateful for the sleep. But, I miss him in the nights now! Gawd. Never satisfied, am I...

Sooo, we're watching Ghost. What the hell is with the part where Carl "accidentally" drops coffee down his shirt at Molly's apartment?! It never occurred to me before how bizarre it is... an excuse to get his bod out and 'entice' the grieving woman...? And it just ends up being all weird and awkward. Hmm. I may have had wine...

Hope you all have good nights tonight!

My brain is mush. I cannot teach/work on this little sleep - the last few nights have been hell.

I wonder if you can get signed off by the doctor for suffering from "High Needs Baby Syndrome"?

I might try it!

Childminder - not so good. Every day this week I have picked up a blotchy tearful girl.... the childminder said she'd been crying on and off for 2 hours before pick up on Tuesday, and 1 hour today. :(

The childminder has said she might want milk/is tired/don't know... she wont take milk of any form off the childminder, and is not good at drinking water when there either - waits to have a massive BF when I pick her up - which was 8 hours on Tuesday.....

The CM says she is otherwise happy/cheerful - it's just as it gets later.... I think DD can just not cope more than 5 hours without me :(

Raspberry, Tickle, Joyful - thank you all for your kind words and support. Babysuko doing much better, but goodness it was frightening! We've been to the GP who prescribed an antihistamine in case of another episode. I'm going to try and get her next appointment with the Paed moved forward so we can talk about referral to allergist and dietician.

Carrying on with the weaning. Just made the baby rice with cooled, boiled water and mixed with the apple puree. So far, so good. Tomorrow, we try banana!

Hope all mums and babies are keeping well. Wish you all a restful weekend filled with lovely, lovely sleep.

She has milk off me no problem - has never taken a bottle but sippy cups and open cups are fine - just not for the childminder!

Will suggest milkshake - thank you :)

Not too bad thanks. Just going round and round in circles wondering what to do for the best. Almost had a row with DP about it tonight as he was "being devils advocate" and countering everything I said!

The bottom line is that I don't know why she gets upset at the childminders. I don't know what's wrong. There is no guarantee to say she would be better, or even worse, if we swapped childcare, and it would definitely be bad to just keep swapping. I don't really want to give up work and can't realistically change my hours know until next September.

I just know that if she does more than a morning there I am picking up a teary blotchy upset or stressed little girl.

And she's been going to this childminder since June - so it's not "settling in". :(

Sorry to be "me, me" but I really can't see through this. And my anxiety is starting to some back big time - getting irrational panics again....