Hi ladies, can I join in, please? I could use with the support some days. I have a naturally conceived DS aged 4 1/2 who was high needs and is now a very bright, energetic, chatty little boy who is generally well behaved. However, we struggled to conceive a sibling for him and had ICSI which resulted in my beautiful DD who is now nine weeks old.
I honestly thought that lightning couldn't possibly strike twice. And that our struggles with secondary infertility would mean that we would have this perfect and chilled-out baby. I thought I'd be "given a break", "cut some slack" by higher powers. How wrong was I?!?
DD is a crier ... she wouldn't go down in her crib in hospital from day one and went from perfectly ok to screaming in five seconds flat. She's still the same now although I get some respite at night because that's generally when she's sleeps well .... ish. But she has wind problems [we're trying everything but as nothing seems to improve it significantly, we are just hoping that she grows out of it soon] so all day long, she cries unless of course, she's in my arms asleep or feeding [although sometimes she cries then, too].
I've tried two different slings ... she hates them; bought a cradle swing, hates that. Have DS's bouncer; hates that. Hates going in the car seat [in the car or on the pushchair]. We have a white noise machine which makes no difference whatsoever. I've talked to my GP, DD went from nothing to screaming the place down in seconds, he rushed me out of there saying that she's fine and she'd grow out of it. And I know, it's a matter of time but I feel a bit alone as everyone I know has easy babies and being around them makes me feel worse. I don't have family close by either, so mostly I sit at home holding her and when DS isn't in nursery, he sits with us playing on his own and has to fend for himself to some extent. Occasionally, I've been out with both of them [somewhere noisy when no one will really pay much attention to the crying baby] but our trip is always cut short by an inconsolable crying spell and me rushing us all back home.
DH is great ... when he's here but he's a contractor so works full-time rarely taking a day off. Right now DD is very tired but as usual, unable to fall into a deep sleep so DH is comforting her.