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How to give the ultimate BJ

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TopTips4TopTips · 21/03/2021 23:44

Tips required.

I left a dead, sexless marriage a while ago, and feel horribly out of practice. It's been YEARS.

I've met a man, we are planning on getting intimate once lockdown lifts, and I'm excited to do this for him, but I'm REALLY anxious I'll be no good, I never felt confident doing it when I was younger, and now (mid-40s, out of practice) I'm even more anxious I'll be crap.
He's really important to me, I want to wow him.
Help!!!

Tips appreciated on this aspect, please.

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slowtik · 22/03/2021 00:59

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fearfulexchange · 22/03/2021 05:09

I felt like this when I'd come out of a sexless marriage.
I watched porn! And then just let myself get into when the time arrived. Only what I felt comfortable with.
Enjoy!

Parkerwhereareyou · 22/03/2021 06:53

Just go slowly and do what feels good.

Slowtic - not sure why such a mean response. Ignore it.

Just remember that as he is into you, even just stroking it will be a turn on for him.

I could give you a full lesson but perhaps by PM!!

StarlightLady · 22/03/2021 06:59

There is a limit to how much l’m prepared to say on a public forum, but in brief l would say, stay within your comfort zone and “think ice lolly”.

Mooncats · 22/03/2021 08:50

Sorry to derail but I'm intrigued as to why people don't want to give details on here - am I missing something ?

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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 08:56

@fearfulexchange

I felt like this when I'd come out of a sexless marriage. I watched porn! And then just let myself get into when the time arrived. Only what I felt comfortable with. Enjoy!
I don't feel comfortable watching porn and don't really want to do that. Thank you for replying though.
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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 08:57

@Parkerwhereareyou

Just go slowly and do what feels good.

Slowtic - not sure why such a mean response. Ignore it.

Just remember that as he is into you, even just stroking it will be a turn on for him.

I could give you a full lesson but perhaps by PM!!

Thank you. I know he is. He adores me. And I him, and I really want to do it well for him.

Please do PM me.

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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 08:58

@StarlightLady

There is a limit to how much l’m prepared to say on a public forum, but in brief l would say, stay within your comfort zone and “think ice lolly”.
Ha, well I tend to bite ice lollies, so I'd better not.

But ok, I get your point.

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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 08:59

@Mooncats

Sorry to derail but I'm intrigued as to why people don't want to give details on here - am I missing something ?
I'm curious too. I also searched on here before posting, to see if it had been discussed already, but couldn't find anything.
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noego · 22/03/2021 09:14

Ask him to direct you! He knows what he likes and doesn't like

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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 09:18

@noego

Ask him to direct you! He knows what he likes and doesn't like
I will. I just hoped there were some top tips I could wow him with. Or little tricks.
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Osirus · 22/03/2021 09:35

You’re coming across as a bit rude and dismissive OP. Are you expecting posters to give you a full lesson here?

There are other threads in the sex topic on this matter, if you have a look. I’ve seen them.

Ultimately, there are no tricks. Like women, men like different things. What’s most important is enthusiasm and enjoying what you’re doing.

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TopTips4TopTips · 22/03/2021 09:49

Am I? Where?!

I did look. Please link a couple.

I know we are all different. I was still hoping for some kind advice. I've already stated I'm really anxious and lack confidence. You could do with being kinder. Or simply not post. Now I feel shit.

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StarlightLady · 22/03/2021 10:58

@Mooncats - Some of us have been called names on here before. Giving details to every woman and her dog is different from providing something privately.

On a more general note porn is not a good educator.

ReadyforTakeOff · 22/03/2021 10:58

Osiris - rude and dismissive?! What are you on about? Maybe you have accidentally posted on the wrong thread?

Mooncats · 22/03/2021 11:13

@Mooncats - Some of us have been called names on here before. Giving details to every woman and her dog is different from providing something privately.

Sorry if I'm sounding even more ignorant now but what names and why? This is a sex forum so I'm confused about why posters are reluctant to give sex tips . Ive recently seen tips about anal / ball play / threesomes so why is this any different ?

xpc316e · 22/03/2021 13:10

There are plenty of clips on Youtube giving advice on giving great blowjobs.

Sparkybloke · 22/03/2021 13:53

From a man's perspective....focus on the tip....lots of nerve endings!!!. As others say....imagine an ice lolly but no biting!!! Everyone is different but for me it's not about how much you can fit in either.....just the top inch or two is fine....I like my balls to be gently massaged too but, as another thread says, doesn't work for every one. Ask....communication is everything.....and well worth establishing up front if you are happy for him to finish in your mouth or not...my partner is but it's not for everyone.....and lastly.....what he's eaten can affect the taste too so avoid curries that day. Maybe an urban myth but they say getting your man to drink pineapple juice a few hours beforehand can improve the taste if its something you don't much like....good luck...and remember what ever you do he will love anyhow so just relax and he in the moment...

mug2018 · 22/03/2021 16:10

badgirlsbible.com/oral-sex-techniques

Take a look at badgirlsbible .. It has some useful tips & advice

PinotPony · 22/03/2021 16:34

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4046410-I-cant-give-a-blow-job

There's a few tips on this old thread...

Best advice is to ask him what he likes..!

ReadyforTakeOff · 22/03/2021 17:11

Always play with the arse too.

VanGoghsDog · 22/03/2021 18:32

@ReadyforTakeOff

Always play with the arse too.
Ask first! I've had several partners who really didn't like that.
crystalcherry87 · 22/03/2021 19:22

I don't think I've ever had a partner who wanted anything near their arse.

Overwhelmed245 · 22/03/2021 19:25

Lots of confidence all my previous partners have loved the fact that I really get into it and enjoy it I actually really love giving blow Jobs. I use both hands starting by working my way down his body kissing and teasing all the way around the area before I take the tip with all the nerve endings and work my way down using hand and mouth I also like to cup the balls and gently play with them. But from all my feedback the real sexiness is in really enjoying it being confident act like you know what your doing even if you don’t have a clue

Parkerwhereareyou · 22/03/2021 19:36

@crystalcherry87

I don't think I've ever had a partner who wanted anything near their arse.
I think the thing is, they think they don't. Because they haven't tried.

I had to work on it with my DP because he liked it but felt bad about it. He thought it meant it was gay. I printed out an anatomical diagram and said no, you're not gay - you're just alive.

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