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How to give the ultimate BJ

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TopTips4TopTips · 21/03/2021 23:44

Tips required.

I left a dead, sexless marriage a while ago, and feel horribly out of practice. It's been YEARS.

I've met a man, we are planning on getting intimate once lockdown lifts, and I'm excited to do this for him, but I'm REALLY anxious I'll be no good, I never felt confident doing it when I was younger, and now (mid-40s, out of practice) I'm even more anxious I'll be crap.
He's really important to me, I want to wow him.
Help!!!

Tips appreciated on this aspect, please.

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TopTips4TopTips · 28/03/2021 21:04

Hang on, I'm gonna be the best!!! 😄

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Parkerwhereareyou · 28/03/2021 21:40

TopTIps careful we'd better not go here ... : D

Because how would we be judged? By a panel??!!

...

(you have had the most advice ... but then again ... let's not underestimate experience ...) : )

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TopTips4TopTips · 28/03/2021 21:56

😄

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Hyperion100 · 29/03/2021 16:19

Eye contact!

SparklingStars10 · 01/04/2021 00:00

In my opinion of giving blow jobs, the tip is where you should be focusing on. I use my mouth, tongue and hand and I also lick his balls.

JustAnotherOldMan · 01/04/2021 20:08

Not sure you need to worry about giving the ultimate BJ, for most blokes having someone actually want to perform oral on them is a bonus !, but as others say, ask him what he likes and be honest & enthusiastic and he’ll be happy chappy 😊

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TopTips4TopTips · 01/04/2021 20:35

Thanks, Folk

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maartjebaabes · 01/04/2021 20:58

From this man's perspective:
The more I'm wondering if you're actually going to put it in your mouth the better - 15 minutes of teasing is well worth it if you have the stamina
Make sure he knows you're enjoying it (but not fake mmmms unless you're Linda Lovelace)
Just lying back isn't that great - I want to be able to play with something of yours.

The most sensitive bit is the lower dot in the right hand semicolon ::::::)
Like with anything, observe what works for him and what doesn't and refine the performance accordingly.

SparklingStars10 · 01/04/2021 21:06

As @maartjebaabes explained, all men like different things too. Some dislike their balls being touched/played with, some like a firm grip whilst using your hand, within time you’ll get to know what he likes through tried and tested methods. Most of all relax and enjoy yourselves Smile

customwatkins · 01/04/2021 21:25

Listen to the podcast 'bad girls bible' there is a two part episode on giving amazing BJ's! Was a fascinating eye opener!

VanGoghsDog · 02/04/2021 00:48

The most sensitive bit is the lower dot in the right hand semicolon

Have you seen a doctor about that?

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TopTips4TopTips · 02/04/2021 19:35

@maartjebaabes

From this man's perspective: The more I'm wondering if you're actually going to put it in your mouth the better - 15 minutes of teasing is well worth it if you have the stamina Make sure he knows you're enjoying it (but not fake mmmms unless you're Linda Lovelace) Just lying back isn't that great - I want to be able to play with something of yours. The most sensitive bit is the lower dot in the right hand semicolon ::::::) Like with anything, observe what works for him and what doesn't and refine the performance accordingly.
Lol, great post. Ok, lower dot, right hand side. Will try. I will DEFINITELY tease him for ages.

I'm actually looking forward to it now, much more than when I first posted.

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TopTips4TopTips · 02/04/2021 19:36

@customwatkins

Listen to the podcast 'bad girls bible' there is a two part episode on giving amazing BJ's! Was a fascinating eye opener!
I've read LOADS on the website.
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TopTips4TopTips · 02/04/2021 19:37

@SparklingStars10

As *@maartjebaabes* explained, all men like different things too. Some dislike their balls being touched/played with, some like a firm grip whilst using your hand, within time you’ll get to know what he likes through tried and tested methods. Most of all relax and enjoy yourselves Smile
Thank you. I fully intend to find out.
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peridito · 03/04/2021 09:02

Lower dot in the right hand semi colon ? I don't understand ,sorry .

And surely there aren't left and right semi colons ...

I'm missing something obvious ,I just know it !

LipstickOnYourCollar5 · 03/04/2021 10:33

@peridito - I assume the lower dot is the smiley face and he means the head of the penis being the most sensitive.

peridito · 03/04/2021 11:22

Thank you Lipstick , I need more coffee I think!

Parkerwhereareyou · 03/04/2021 12:34

The most sensitive bit is the lower dot in the right hand semicolon

... Hmm. Peridito and Lipstick, I now can't understand either (smiley face etc.?)

I just tried to draw it on a piece of paper. Is a right hand semi colon one of those upside down Spanish question marks, maartjebaabes?

If so, I'm thinking of an entirely different answer to the head. All seems a bit confusing, TBH, as not sure which way up either semi colon or erection is. ?!

Come on ... tell us ... !

VanGoghsDog · 03/04/2021 14:42

I had no idea what the semi colon comment meant either!

KitNCaboodle · 05/04/2021 09:40

Semi colon lower dot is, I think, the ‘banjo string’ bit. So just below the head and underneath, but with be closest to your mouth when giving head.

I would also suggest running your finger (and/or tongue) along the seam between his balls and bum.

MrsHastingslikethebattle · 07/04/2021 22:42

Don't give a shit what you look like. Don't worry about looking cute.

Go for it, spit on it, who cares if theres saliva up your face, cup his balls, lick his balls, enthusiasm is the key.

Parkerwhereareyou · 08/04/2021 18:22

@MrsHastingslikethebattle

Don't give a shit what you look like. Don't worry about looking cute.

Go for it, spit on it, who cares if theres saliva up your face, cup his balls, lick his balls, enthusiasm is the key.

Ha! Well, now it's been said ...
PermanentTemporary · 10/04/2021 01:21

I think the best blowjob tip I ever had was on here, from expatinscotland, which was essentially 'the wetter the better' so that lots of saliva dripping out while you're doing it is a good thing. I know my technique got better after that.

I'd always try licking the frenulum or actually rubbing it with my tongue, while my lips are loosely over the head. Some men love it - looooove it - and some don't, it's always worth finding out. Men who've been circumcised need even more focus on the head than men who haven't IMO. (I'm slightly embarrassed to say I'm not actually 100% sure whether my current partner has been or not! Don't think so).

ginastill · 15/04/2021 12:26

The most up-to-date edition of the god-tier BJ has been dubbed 'The Gluck Gluck 9000" - a term coined by a millennial sexpert who has a very entertaining podcast called the "Call Her Daddy" podcast. It's all sex tips and scandalous stories, you might like it - definitely helped me loosen up and just have fun, communicate openly etc.

Essentially, the BJ in question concerns a few aspects which, when pulled together, are apparently amazing. These include using both hands and twisting them with gentle grip in opposite directions (so you don't need to deep throat), or one hand twisting, one hand on the jewels. This leaves the upper part of the appendage which ought to be orally vacuum sealed (careful with the teeth) and -to quote Alex from Call Her Daddy- 'glopped upon'.
Generous saliva is apparently no longer non negotiable. I think I'll leave it there 😂

nonflirtinghusband · 15/04/2021 17:12

Just listened to it @ginastill (it's episode 3 if anyone else wants it). Love the podcast - thanks for recommending!

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