How to give the ultimate BJ

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Tips required.

I left a dead, sexless marriage a while ago, and feel horribly out of practice. It's been YEARS.

I've met a man, we are planning on getting intimate once lockdown lifts, and I'm excited to do this for him, but I'm REALLY anxious I'll be no good, I never felt confident doing it when I was younger, and now (mid-40s, out of practice) I'm even more anxious I'll be crap.
He's really important to me, I want to wow him.
Help!!!

Tips appreciated on this aspect, please.

@opinionminion

Think licking a melting luxury ice cream ...up and down the shaft. Little flips of the tongue at the tip, long wet licks, use your lips for suction, change your rotation clock wise then anti clockwise. Make eye contact. Be guided by the sounds your man is making.

Good tips, thank you.

Ok, I'm feeling more assured already.
Thanks, All.

I have no idea how it's possible to keep eye contact when you've got your head between someone's legs, their cock in your mouth and their tummy in between you.

I can do a blow job OR I can do eye contact. I can't do both, so choose which you want!

I've been told I'm good at it for the following reasons:
I'm enthusiastic and it's obvious I like giving him pleasure
I use my hands as well as my mouth
I include the balls in my attentions
I vary between licks and sucks
I am quite firm, it's not going to break
Sucking can be very firm at times.

Hope this helps

Oh and yes, eye contact, watch for his reactions you will see what you do that he likes.
Saliva or lube, nice and wet feels good.

Vangoghsdog
'I can do a blow job OR I can do eye contact. I can't do both, so choose which you want!'

Kneel on the floor (on a cushion or something if you prefer ...) and open his legs, take it in your mouth and look up at him. Unless his tummy is very fat, you ought to be able to establish eye contact. Even with a fat tum, you will probably see his eyebrows at least ; )

TopTips - never say never! Love is love : )

@VanGoghsDog

I have no idea how it's possible to keep eye contact when you've got your head between someone's legs, their cock in your mouth and their tummy in between you.

I can do a blow job OR I can do eye contact. I can't do both, so choose which you want!

Ha, yeah, I've been wondering! Will try though.

@cravingthelook

I've been told I'm good at it for the following reasons: I'm enthusiastic and it's obvious I like giving him pleasure I use my hands as well as my mouth I include the balls in my attentions I vary between licks and sucks I am quite firm, it's not going to break Sucking can be very firm at times.

Hope this helps

Thank you. It does.

@Parkerwhereareyou

Vangoghsdog 'I can do a blow job OR I can do eye contact. I can't do both, so choose which you want!'

Kneel on the floor (on a cushion or something if you prefer ...) and open his legs, take it in your mouth and look up at him. Unless his tummy is very fat, you ought to be able to establish eye contact. Even with a fat tum, you will probably see his eyebrows at least ; )

TopTips - never say never! Love is love : )

Haha, I'm pretty sure I'm a never on that one.

Haha, I'm pretty sure I'm a never on that one.

It honestly is nothing like you'd imagine.

@Parkerwhereareyou

Ah, well, sex is in/on the bed for me. I'm not kneeling in front of anyone.

@Parkerwhereareyou

Haha, I'm pretty sure I'm a never on that one.

It honestly is nothing like you'd imagine.

It's where poo comes out. That's what I imagine! Don't even need to imagine. 😅

@VanGoghsDog .... in the shower is fantastic

That said if you prefer bed, get him comfy with his shoulders propped on pillows so he can look down his body, position yourself between his legs so you are right under his balls, if you look up from there you can see his whole body and make eye contact. It makes the difference.

It wouldn't be possible in my shower. I suppose me being half blind doesn't help with considering eye contact to be a thing - once my glasses are off I can't see someone's eyes really.

Vangogh keep your glasses on then?

Make him stand up in front of you? You sit in pure comfort on the sofa?

Anyhow what's wrong with kneeling? Very good for your back and general flexibility etc. Practically yoga. Yoga with a cock in your mouth.

@Parkerwhereareyou .... I'm using that to tell my girl friends, 'oh I've been doing yoga - the kneeling cock' rather than the downward dog

I can't do yoga!

I'd need Ray Reardon style glasses to look up and be able to see, when I look up I look over the rim.

Vangogh you CAN of course do yoga, and even with a cock in your mouth! ; )

Yoga is just moving your body consciously. Instead of just moving mindlessly. That's about it really. Kneeling on a fat squashy cushion, opening your mouth, sucking his cock and looking up over your NHS specs at him. Come on. You've got this : D ... just try. You never know. You might even like it! : )

[quote cravingthelook]@Parkerwhereareyou .... I'm using that to tell my girl friends, 'oh I've been doing yoga - the kneeling cock' rather than the downward dog [/quote]
Yes! : D That Downwards Dog anyhow - I always thought ffs this is Downwards Doggy Style and asking to be fucked. Of course it is.

Sorry, to add to my definition of yoga - yoga is preparing yourself to be fucked, thinking about it, and being in various available positions for it.

Why do all these wives/mothers/whatever love it so much? Yes? Am I right?!

@Parkerwhereareyou

I'm a 52 yo woman who had given hundreds of blow jobs and been to many yoga classes. I can't do yoga. I can give blow jobs. I just don't see that making eye contact is part of it, which could be because I'm very short sighted and have some sight loss from a torn retina.

There's really no need to keep telling me what I can and can't do, thanks.

Sorry, Vangogh. I didn't say about the eye contact - others did. You just said it was impossible to achieve eye contact. And that you wouldn't kneel down for anyone.

I was just joining in with suggestions and it was all v light-hearted, from you too, with jokes about fat tummies and glasses.

I’ve also been told I’m good at it (best he’s ever had apparently ) and I agree with everything @cravingthelook says.

First of all, I love doing it - that’s important, enthusiasm is the most important thing, and you shouldn’t be doing something you don’t like anyway. He will love that you enjoy doing it.

Also, take your time. There’s no rush. With my current partner I took it really slowly the first couple of times to listen to his breathing and see how he responded to what I was doing.

Balls are important, play with them too - lightly squeeze or run your fingers over them, lick and suck those (gently!) too. Explore his penis with your tongue - the shaft, the head, swirl your tongue over the tip. Use your hand while you’re getting use to his size and how deep you want to go. Only deep throat if you feel comfortable.

Have fun!

@Hullish

I’ve also been told I’m good at it (best he’s ever had apparently ) and I agree with everything *@cravingthelook* says.

First of all, I love doing it - that’s important, enthusiasm is the most important thing, and you shouldn’t be doing something you don’t like anyway. He will love that you enjoy doing it.

Also, take your time. There’s no rush. With my current partner I took it really slowly the first couple of times to listen to his breathing and see how he responded to what I was doing.

Balls are important, play with them too - lightly squeeze or run your fingers over them, lick and suck those (gently!) too. Explore his penis with your tongue - the shaft, the head, swirl your tongue over the tip. Use your hand while you’re getting use to his size and how deep you want to go. Only deep throat if you feel comfortable.

Have fun!

Thank you!

Hmm we're going to end up in competition here .... or is it possible for more than one of us to be the best?! b ; )

(that 'b' was a typo, not some oblique reference to my Aces ; )

@Parkerwhereareyou that made me laugh out loud

Joint best will do me!