dom/sub thing really annoying

[freeloader]

I'm really on board with people freely expressing their sexuality etc. Live and let live and all that. Plus, I really enjoy sex a lot.

BUT I find the whole dom/sub stuff so hard to get my head around. I don't mean there's any should/shouldn't around this because we definitely are in a free country. But, just WHAT, WHY? Sex is great. It's pleasurable. What 's with the pain and suffering? I definitely don't mean that people shouldn't be into that. I just mean that sex feels good, so why the need for pain etc? It's such as British thing. Other countries/cultures just go along with the fact that sex feels good and there's no need to mix up pleasure/pain. Sex feels good. Why involve pain and suffering?

Work is like that isn't it? Selling your labour to an employer who can boss you around is seen as empowering.
What?? No it's not! It's seen as a necessary way to get money to survive. It's never described as "empowering" - being your own boss is described as empowering though.
Well, that's probably just upbringing isn't it?
What do you mean by that? Are you saying that men aren't raised to want the "ultimate power"?

"No it's not! It's seen as a necessary way to get money to survive. It's never described as "empowering" - being your own boss is described as empowering though."

Read the threads on here about whether women should go back to work after having a child. There are usually plenty of arguments that working is empowering. Women are encouraged to work even if their DH earns enough or if their wage would barely cover childcare because some people do see work or financial independence as empowering.

I think being self-employed is quite risky and insecure, not necessarily empowering.

Google isn’t a secret OP. It literally takes a couple of clicks to find out it isn’t just a British thing and didn’t even originate in Britain. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

What do you mean by that? Are you saying that men aren't raised to want the "ultimate power"?

What do you think ultimate power is and who do you think is raising men to want it. Also why do you think the majority of doms are men?

Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!This thread is definitely the weirdest thread I've seen on the subject for quite some time.

Love, Subspace.