lilyofthevalley, thanks, I hope things get easier for you too.
WhoIsAsking - ha, ha, ha, at freudian slip, NO No No, def no affair, should have read aware. Will take your word for it re WWIFN although she does seem to have had a bee in her bonnet about me, my responded comments I consider fair play.
Not bonkers Malificence an yes, this thread has gone on and on and on and on and on and on. That is bizarre? Must be a lot of bored people out there that consider this to be so interesting then. No drama, no molehill, but certainly my misinturpretation of the meaning of 'emotional affair'. Guess I got confused with calling it that because me and said Ex spent sometime discussing our 'personal relationship' silly me for not grasping the english language properly. Sometimes we can't all agree and have the same opinions which is great but there is never a need to nit pick holes in someones thread and accuse them of something other than what the OP is telling them. Lilyofthevalley understands perfectly as she has/is going through the same thing albeit on quite a different level, haven't seen anyone reprimand or pull her up though even if it isnt her thread. So no, I am not bored, I am not having an emotional affair, I am not making a mountain out of a molehill, I am not having a car crash, what I am doing is perhaps stupidly trying to justify my actions, don't think I will bother anymore.