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Original poster

Have just found out dp has been 'spying' on the woman next door!

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:27

with binoculars no less..... I feel sick .
What should I do??

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lavenderrr · 04/05/2005 23:39

sorry posted and didn't read thread properly...maybe he was just doing a I lok at you, as you look at me....not as if he were viewing her the nude is it

juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:39

You need to do a thorough search whilst he's out, that's what I'd do.

PuffTheMagicDragon · 04/05/2005 23:40

Well.........my previous partner took to doing this after he saw our neighbour "at it" with her girlfriend in the garden.

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:40

Search what?

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tiffini · 04/05/2005 23:40

you say she lives next door,
does he go into the garden and spy on her??

Original poster
voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:40

Puff - noted the word previous

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juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:40

He could be in danger of being accused of harassing her.

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:41

No from our spare bedroom window into her kitchen

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juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:41

Anywhere you think he could be hiding stuff? I don't know I'm just suspicious anyway, take no notice.

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:41

Juniper that is exactly what I've threatened him with - said the police take a harsh line with 'peeping toms'

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BIGBILLYGOATGRUFF · 04/05/2005 23:42

!!BANG!!

PuffTheMagicDragon · 04/05/2005 23:42

voyeur - I dumped him for a whole host of other reasons!

lavenderrr · 04/05/2005 23:42

I meant if someone looks at you you look at them and that is it, maybe she is the one at fault for being a complete numpty

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:42

I know this is odd, but I really am not a troll

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Original poster
voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:43

Do you reckon Lavenderr?

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juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:43

u think so Billy? Oh dear I must be tired.

fuzzywuzzy · 04/05/2005 23:44

but lavenderr one usually does not look back with binoculars...ummmm she wasnt looking at him with binoculars was she???

lou33 · 04/05/2005 23:44

don't understand why she would be at fault, when he has admitted it?

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:45

Please don't take the p guys, I am really serious... it makes this situation even worse thinking that you think it is so far-fetched that I must be making it up

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:45

lou33 - found out today and he admitted it this evening

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juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:45

no it isn't far fetched it happens

Ok so it's upsetting you, what's he said about it or has he clammed up now?

lou33 · 04/05/2005 23:46

no sorry was referring to lavenderrs reply

was she doing anything untoward , voyeur?

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voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:47

He's just trying to make me think it's all normal, that she's in the wrong for looking over here in the first place - honestly, it's laughable except I'm not. I've told him that I now feel I can't trust him and will be watching his every move

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Original poster
voyeur · 04/05/2005 23:48

lou - he says she was just in the kitchen, nothing untoward going on

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juniperdewdrop · 04/05/2005 23:48

it isn't normal at all. Is he under any extra stress?

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