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If you hate giving blow jobs but do it anyway - please tell me how?

115 replies

aNoblowarea · 17/04/2009 15:15

I've never been able to bring myself to give them. Poor DH hasn't had one in the ten years we've been together and he's never pressured me about it but I know he would love it if I did.

I just don't know how to get past not wanting to. TBH it's purely about the thought of any stray sperm thatput me right off.

OP posts:
MamaHobgoblin · 19/04/2009 17:55

Well, I really like giving them, but I've never had ejaculate in my mouth for the simple reason that I pull away before that bit! I've never had any complaints, and it's not like I then leave him high and dry.

I hate the idea of a lot of cum suddenly in my mouth, but since you're in charge, you can limit this happening. You could also limit yourself to the sides for a bit, see if you can work up to it gently. I'm sure whatever you're willing to do would be gratefully received.
And if you're worried about the taste in general, I'd second the tips about playing about with drinks, etc, while doing it. And naturally insist he washes first!

Disenchanted3 · 19/04/2009 18:00

I really, really like giving them so its not a problem here. I prefer him to finish in my mouth and I swallow too, but if you don't like the taste just excuse yourself to the loo, spit and have a drink ready in there to wash taste away.

howtotellmum · 19/04/2009 18:29

everard ( nice name!)

I t looks as if you might have some sort of morbid fascination with BJs! You like watching them in porn, but feel it is degrading to give them yourself. An interesting combination of feelings!

I suppose the fact that you like watching implies some kind of thrill at something you yourself would not do - which is actually what you have said.

Thing is - have you thought through why you feel it is degrading? Something is surely only degrading if you are forced to do it, and it means you are subjected to some kind of pain, distress or humiliation.

To be blunt, if youare happy to have a penis in your fanny- why not in your mouth?

isittooearlyforgin · 20/04/2009 21:07

i find if you use lots of teeth they don't ask again very soon

MissUndercover · 20/04/2009 23:19

Love the 'get drunk', 'rub on chocolate advice'...classic .

TippytheTipsyTurkeychick · 20/04/2009 23:27

An extra strong mint will deffo take any taste away and is sposed to be an amazing, tingling feeling for the bloke.
I'm not a huge fan I have to say and I can't stand having the favour returned, never have. I do insist that it is squeaky clean so himself knows that if he doesn't shower right before bed, it's a no. Harsh but fair I feel, they do use that thing for weeing with too y'know

notoverit · 21/04/2009 21:27

I have read the thread and would like to jump in and adk some questions. Sorry to hijack.

I dont think I have ever given a proper blow job before, I have sucked it and licked it and had come in my mouth, but not alot, but I dont think I have ever got exp to the stage where he had come properly.

Also I have never properly wanked someone off as always feel I am not doing it right and they can do it better then me.

But my exp did not have a fore skin so it does take longer for him to come.

What exactly would you be doing with your hands while licking and sucking? And how long do you think it takes usually for them to come? When I was with exp he never seemed to come while I was giving a blow job, so either I'm crap or he just takes longer. As he really seemed to enjoy it when ever i did it, but even when having sex he always takes ages to come.

Also just wondering if your dp or dh does come do you still have sex?

notoverit · 21/04/2009 21:27

I have read the thread and would like to jump in and adk some questions. Sorry to hijack.

I dont think I have ever given a proper blow job before, I have sucked it and licked it and had come in my mouth, but not alot, but I dont think I have ever got exp to the stage where he had come properly.

Also I have never properly wanked someone off as always feel I am not doing it right and they can do it better then me.

But my exp did not have a fore skin so it does take longer for him to come.

What exactly would you be doing with your hands while licking and sucking? And how long do you think it takes usually for them to come? When I was with exp he never seemed to come while I was giving a blow job, so either I'm crap or he just takes longer. As he really seemed to enjoy it when ever i did it, but even when having sex he always takes ages to come.

Also just wondering if your dp or dh does come do you still have sex?

isittooearlyforgin · 23/04/2009 22:14

come on ladies - give the girl an answer - don't be shy! if we can manage to write hundreds of answers to the bumsex thread - surely someone can give some top tips to this? sadly not me - have no technique

notoverit · 23/04/2009 22:22

yes I second that, someone must have some more tips.

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/04/2009 18:19

not my fav thing but i will give dh them

he on the otherhand LOVES going down on me

so i get a lot more than he does

agree swallowing isnt great, but if he has come in your mouth anyway, then make sure you have a glass of something (pref still) and swallow both together

or finish him off by hand - dh also gets great enjoyment wanking over my tits - and thus meaning no yukky taste in my mouth

expat had a great techique - i have read it on a few posts- sure she can find it and link it on here

and remmerber that you cant give a bad BJ and the man is so grateful for having his cock sucked that whatever you do he will love

just take it easy and have a suck, nibble,my dh loves me sucking/putting his balls in my mouth (as long as he has given them a haircut[wink) but ONLY if you want to give him a BJ

candyfluff · 03/05/2009 17:00

what ever you do dont get spunk in your eyes its fucking stings!!!!!!!!!

DanSavageNo1Fan · 06/05/2009 03:17

Speaking as a man with a foreskin, there really is no such thing as a bad BJ...
It's a tricky one, though. Clearly from the posts, and from talking to friends there are lots of women who don't like giving. Personally it's my joint favourite sexual activity (with cunnilingus), although it took a very painful conversation with DW for it to re-enter our married sexlife post DCs. Couple of points:

  1. The original poster states that her DH hasn't had a BJ in 10 years - I'd like to add "from her"...
  2. I really like the taste of my own come and get off on it;
  3. Oral sex, frankly, is like AC on cars. If your model doesn't come with it as standard, upgrade...
AnyFucker · 06/05/2009 07:29

dan, was your post meant to be deliberately unpleasant ?

moondog · 06/05/2009 07:30

Blimey.
Such talk so early!

mrsblanc · 06/05/2009 07:37

Excuse me, I am Dan Savage's number one fan .

howtotellmum · 06/05/2009 11:04

Dan from your 1) and 2) I am wondering how you manage to suck your own cock

AnyFucker · 06/05/2009 14:47

mrsblanc ??

ThePhantomPlopper · 06/05/2009 15:51

What a deeply unpleasant post Dan.

I can take them or leave them, I prefer to do it in the shower though, makes it nicer some how.

Doodle2U · 06/05/2009 15:56

Dan, you're a little fluffy, wuffy, chuffy little bunnykins, aren't you love?

mrsblanc · 07/05/2009 01:06

Anyfucker , Dan Savage is a New York sex advice columnist. His column is called Savage Love.
If you Google Dan Savage Love you will find him.
He is incredibly entertaining.

DanSavageNo1fan, re the air con. My car does not have air con. I have no problem winding down the window myself if I want to cool down . Because I love my car.

GET IT?

AnyFucker · 07/05/2009 07:21

oh thanks mrsblanc, I'm with you now
I thought you meant that you were trolling under that name, and then outing yourself....duhh

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/05/2009 09:10

i was a bit at dans post - then had a google

he is quite funny

though not many men like the taste of their own spunk

mrsblanc · 07/05/2009 22:33

anyfucker

DanSavageNo1Fan · 07/05/2009 22:35

Wow, quite a bit of Mars/Venus going on here. First off, I'd like to apologise to anyone who thought my original post was a bit blunt. For the record, I think that aNoblowarea is incredibly selfless for contemplating what Mr. S would call an outstandingly GGG [Good, Giving and Game] course of action.

  1. @, ahem, "AnyFucker" [good ID, BTW]: Sorry, not deliberate, just stream of consciousness
  2. @howtotellmum: The Holy Grail! Maybe with a few more yoga lessons and a little light surgery (I'm sure there's a couple of ribs and a vertebra I can live without) and I'll never have to leave the house again...
  3. @ThePhantomPlopper [there was a chap at my {boarding} school who we called the phantom wanker - any relation?]: The "freshly washed" rule ALWAYS applies. On a 2-way street.
  4. @mrsblanc: yeah I know the analogy is in very poor taste. Partly why I used it of course... And it can be extrapolated ad infinitum. And I should probably own up to it not being original to me. It's a Dan Savage (c).
  5. @Blondeshavemorefun: Snowball?
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