If you hate giving blow jobs but do it anyway - please tell me how?

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I've never been able to bring myself to give them. Poor DH hasn't had one in the ten years we've been together and he's never pressured me about it but I know he would love it if I did.

I just don't know how to get past not wanting to. TBH it's purely about the thought of any stray sperm thatput me right off.

I dislike paying for my own shoes more than I dislike giving blowjobs. as he doesn't return the favour I haven't paid for a new pair of shoes in nearly a year, the choices to be made are quite distracting during It works for us, and whilst some may think it cheap, we find it a little sexy in the game iyswim? But I'm a pretty broadminded, kinky mare

Ladypink, I visit the loo too, swallowing makes me sicky for hours.

honie- so a BJ = a new pair of shoes???

Not every single one howtotellmum, but it has been known to happen. But bear in mind he really will not return the favour , so it's only fair I get treats too .

He does seem to be coming (fnar) round to my love of shoes......

haven't read the thread fully, just wanted to pass on my pearl of wisdom.

In order for a man to ejaculate his testicle rise up to release sperm.

whilst giving him the blow job place two fingers over the top of his testicles thuis preventing them frmo rising up. you need to be firm but without hurting him. use the other fingers to gently stroke the balls and you'll get some extra browny points

blow away to your hearts content. if you feel the balls rising duck and let go!

Bloody Hell- if that worked for me, I'd be another Imelda Marcos!

Sounds to me like you have got the best part of the deal.

I don't love it but like doing it as he loves it so much and I think I am pretty good at it now !

I NEVER swallow but my DH is circumcised so it is harder to get him to ejaculate anyway so he is never offended. Although if he was I would make him taste it then he would understand - it is soooo vile!

I don't try to go too deep as it makes me gag I just use my mouth on the top half and my hand on the bottom half which works fine. Lots of men love the idea of deep throat but I would definitely throw up if I did it which would not be a turn on

I don't just go up and down I use my tongue a lot and swirl it round the head and up the funny vein bit along the top. You need fairly good suction with your mouth too just watch your teeth.

To spice it up a bit play with his balls at the same time or rub the perenium (bit between balls and bum). If you are feeling very brave and he has agreed it most men love to have their prostates rubbed at the same time but that of course involves fingers and bums which might be too much for some people

Depending on your DH it can be a good idea to perform where they get a good view of what you're doing (so not hiding under the duvet). IME the visual aspect helps them get carried away a bit quicker so there's less potential for jaw ache. Also IME it helps to be a wee bit tipsy (you not him) when doing this - helps your inhibitions

Knew a lady once that would give her husband a spoonful of honey at breakfast - and at the time told him it made the ejaculate taste sweeter. I'm sure it was nonsense, but the end result was that he'd think about getting the BJ all day - resulting in so much anticipation from him that it only ended up being a 4 minute job max . It takes me longer than 4 minutes to clean the lav and doesn't qualify for nearly as many brownie points as a blowie.

So if DP is quick about it, then I don't find it too bad at all. I have said that it would be very bad form on his part to make it last ages - that's saved for my benefit .

Pony tails (on you) are not advisable for this type of activity.

You clean the lav with your tongue?

I have never asked anyone to do this for me and never will. I do not want anyone to do it either because I do not want to ejaculate in someones mouth. I just think it is an unpleasant thing to do to someone you love. I just simply cannot enjoy it for that reason.

Am I the only man to have ever said this or do other men feel this way as well?

Many of the women posters on here clearly dislike it (as I always suspected) and they only do it because they think it wil please their man.

I agree with Dittany - please do not feel forced into doing things you dislike.

Well I like it, not all women do it just to please their partner. I guess i might be less keen if the favour wasnt returned. But whatever floats your boat. Have you ever discussed it at all?

With regard to taste melon is supposed to be a good food to eat beforehand. Makes it taste like ambrosia ...apparently . Avoid curry and beer....

BitOfFun - Yes I have discussed it and explained why I do not like it.

Of course, I also accept that some people do like it and as you say 'whatever floats your boat'. I am just saying that no one should feel forced into it if they do not want to.

Not read whole thread but t'other arf likes it if I have a mouth full of fizzy i.e. champage or cheaper Gets lots of interesting sensations and masks taste I guess.

I like doing it - fair enough it's not always on the menu, but then again it's not some dreadful chore that must be done periodically (unlike cleaning the lav, avec or sans tongues).
After all this chat DP's luck might well be in tonight at this rate

Of course no one should feel obliged to do something they really dislike - and not everyone likes receiving oral sex - Abetadad, you're not the only bloke who isn;t keen, don;t worry.
But there is a difference between doing something you know you dislike, and agreeing, with a partner who you love and who is loving towards you, that you will try something that is new to you but a big turn on to them. Because with a partner who is a decent human being, you should feel safe to try stuff in the knowledge that if you don't enjoy it and want to stop, the partner will not reproach you.

ANyway.. how? Relax the jaw. No need to go at it hammer and tongs. Concentrate on the end with your tongue for some of the time. It all feels nice. You don't need to feel as if you have lockjaw after a few mins.

Dh is pathetically grateful bless him.

Can I ask a question related to this? I have never given a blow job as the thought of getting semen in my mouth makes me want to barf and I have always thought sucking a dick was demeaning for the woman. I know my dh would like me to try but I have always said no. It heartens me to see people saying don't do anything you don't enjoy as sex should not be like that.

The thing is though that I do like watching women giving blow jobs in porn. I find it really arousing. So am I denying myself something I would actually find pleasureable or is it possible to enjoy watching others do something I myself would find demeaning and disgusting?

I love giving BJ's and I actually hate wanking! It just seems really inpersonal and I'm convinced that men can do a better job them selves. I think I've always felt a bit self consious wanking but I actually have it done it more with DP than anyone else.

I love giving BJ's though and am not ashamed to say I swallow, the thought of holding it in till you find a suitable place to spit it out is worse in my mind and it is only like teaspoon full, I have a drink to hand and then go and brush my teeth and use mouthwash.

I should point out I douse my hand at the same time but just finding the whole tossing off a bit gross! Sorry for language but there really is no other way to say it

I love giving them, I swallow, and a gay/bi-sexual man taught me how.

Don't be worried about spit build up is my top tip. You can wipe it off later.

It's part and parcel to doing the job well.

Howtotellmum, I think so to, and having some really rather stunning shoes these days....

It also means he has stopped moaning about my love of shoes