If you hate giving blow jobs but do it anyway - please tell me how?

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I've never been able to bring myself to give them. Poor DH hasn't had one in the ten years we've been together and he's never pressured me about it but I know he would love it if I did.

I just don't know how to get past not wanting to. TBH it's purely about the thought of any stray sperm thatput me right off.

he should have a bath, then immediatley once dry and erect, put on a condom.

However i don't do blowjobs, i dont like it - i somehow feel 'mastered' and subjugated. and i don't like it.

when dh pipes up about it - i tell him whats good for the goose is good for the gander.

he doesn't like the through of having his face in my pubes either

so we have a happy impasse

Having something to drink handy is good - a fancy show-off blowjob technique is to have a hot drink and a glass of iced water on the bedside table, and alternate mouthfuls to vary the sensation for the bloke.
You could also try flavoured lubes, or chocolate spread or anything else that takes your fancy (if your fancy does run to peanut butter then smooth NOT crunchy...)Minty things like toothpaste or my old party-piece accessory, creme de menth, are good as they make the skin tingle - though some blokes actually don't like that sensation.
You can also do a bit of licking and dribbling and then use your hand for most of it.
Good on you for trying - I don't think people should have to do stuff sexually that they don't like, either, but I think sometimes it's not unreasonable to try something different as long as it isn't dangerous or painful.

OH yes - insist he's freshly washed.

Does anyone know if there's any truth in it changing flavour depending on what he's been eating? I haven't exactly done a controlled experiment.

From experience, I do believe that olives, garlic and pineapple DO change the flavour. Pineapple makes it sweeter... the others slightly bitter.

Yes, it can happen. THink of how someone who eats a lot of garlic/curry smells faintly of it all the time...

That's the answer then OP - make him eat a lot of pineapple!

Asparagus makes it go VILE. Normal-tasting is fine though IMO, but then I probably ate my own bogies as a child...

I think this thread has many answers!

Thank you for all your replies. Just to be clear DH has never made an issue out of it and we have a good sex life and dh is very good at oral sex so it would be nice if I could find a way around not wanting to IYSWIM?

Lots of interesting responses here so I'm going to re -read them and maybe try some ideas!

Ladypink - I guess we differ on that. I can't stand the thought of it going down my throat into my gullet. I'd rather briskly walk the few steps to the toilet.

I have tried it before (swallowing) and it made me feel sick. No matter how much I rinsed my mouth I couldn't get rid of the taste of it at the back of my throat.

i just close my eye's and think of somthing better. as i absolutly can't stand giving one. and also i make sure DP pulls away when he is about to cum so it doesn't go in my mouth.

its not the taste its the texture that gets me... never liked semolina as a child !

Maybe that's it! I don't like semolina either

I was giving horrible blow jobs for years untill i read something about treating the penis like a dripping icecream, so use a lot of long twisty licks, use your hand as well, both hands with lots of lube is great plus practise flicking your tounge over the head where its sensitive, you hardly have to put the peins in your mouth tbh, and you say you don't like the pre cum or the actualy cum then when you see any pre cum just gently wipe it away with your finger discreetly before you carry on, dp doesn't cum in y mouth as i would boak but we use it as foreplay.
He does me first then i give him a bj then i slip on the condom before sliding on top, its a turn on especially if you blind fold your dp so you dint feel embarrased.

possibly tmi, sorry.

No such thing on a thread like this

only read the OP for now.....

you get very very drunk.

do it enough

and you acutally start to quite enjoys it.

especially the power you hold over your DH/DP

Lol i don't usually post on these threads but have had a bit to drink. I find dp easier to give blow jobs to as he is circumsised, i would panic if confronted by a foreskin these days!

As a bloke I kind of think it's up to the woman to make the first move as far as BJs are concerned. If she doesn't want to do it any decent man certainly wouldn't ask. It just wouldn't be polite.

BZ: it isn't necessarily impolite to ask for something sexually if you would like it (unless your partner has previously said that s/he hates whatever it is). You're unlikely to have very good sex with anyone if you don't talk a little bit about what you both like and dislike - and if a new partner isn't keen on something, just say, never mind and move onto something else, but if you don't ask bear in mind that they might love whatever it is but not suggest it because they think you won't like it.

(I am using a generic 'you' BTW).

ah, a gentleman! Perhaps you would grace my bumsex thread in AIBU and give me your opinion?

Sorry Lisa I'm rather busy discussing mice having bumsex on another thread.

I enjoy giving blow jobs, but I didn't used to. Something that really helped me was to think of it as an ice cream, and lick, flick and nibble (lips not teeth!) to your heart's content, and never to take it deep into my mouth, there's just no need. You can even do most of the work by hand and add in your moth occasionally for a different sensation. I find it pleasurable in the way kissing is in a way, I am being stimulated via my mouth and tongue. I always swallow as it's the fastest wa of getting out of my mouth, I try to swallow before it even has chance to hit my tastebuds! God, I've never written anything like this before!

But I also think if you don't want to do it and he dosn't mind, then there's no need to force yourself. But you might surprise yourself and find you like it!