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Don't read if squeemish...TMI

118 replies

TooGross · 10/09/2008 10:20

Hi. I have name changed for this, for reasons which will become obvious!
I have been seeing a man for a while now, but he has a 'bedroom habit' which I find really REALLY weird and just wondered if I am just out of touch or am I right in thinking this is really bizarre.
Ok...(deep breath)......when we've had sex, he lifts the covers, points down to his 'manhood' and says 'clean me up then'! I asked him what he meant the first time he said it and he said that unless I (so sorry for the graphic description) sucked and licked it clean he would get sore!!!! When I refuse he gets really affronted, like I'm rejecting him sexually, when there's nothing sexual about it. he's already 'shot his load', sex is finished and in my opinion he's just too lazy to get up and wash it, so expects me to give him a bed bath with my mouth!!! I mean, it's cold, congealed...his AND mine IYSWIM.
Is this really odd? I sure as hell think so.

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Original poster
TooGross · 10/09/2008 10:53

I'm going to have to disappear in a minute, but honestly I'm not a troll, I will be back, probably tomorrow. I just wanted to know if it's just me finding this weird.

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muggglewump · 10/09/2008 10:53

I think I'm going to throw up.
That's just going too far.

I have no issues with oral, even after sex but the pulling forskin and squeezing is vomit inducing.

Original poster
TooGross · 10/09/2008 10:54

Muggle....exactly my thoughts.

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Buda · 10/09/2008 10:55

Yuck. You are well rid. It all sounds most odd. In fact disturbing really.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 10/09/2008 10:55

Puke!
Are you serious? And you did this for him? I'm sorry but you should dump him. Is he for real?

empressorchid · 10/09/2008 11:07

Defintiely strange, controlling, freakish behaviour. Don't bother seeing him again

sweetgrapes · 10/09/2008 11:19

yuckity yuckity yuck...
Puke all over him and kick him out.

purpleduck · 10/09/2008 11:54

I feel faint

mou · 10/09/2008 12:07

ew! ew! ew! not normally squeamish but NO!!!!!! I htink i'd be washing my hair a lot, bleeuurrgghh!

louii · 10/09/2008 12:22

I am sorry but that is not normal at all, he is a freak and a controlling one at that, i would seriously be reconsidering your relationship with this man.

NotQuiteCockney · 10/09/2008 12:25

She's already said the relationship is dead, thankfully.

Does he ever perform oral sex on you? He sounds like he's got some cleanliness issues, to put it mildly. (Nothing wrong with anyone doing anything to anyone, pretty much - but demanding, in such a horrid way ... ugh.)

aGalChangedHerName · 10/09/2008 12:38

Christ i so wish i hadn't read throught this thread.

ManxMum · 10/09/2008 12:40

DH says it's a load of crap about him getting sore.

He's a sicko. Yuk!!!

cocolepew · 10/09/2008 12:43

Eww that's a bit freaky. I think it's controlling as well, it would be more hygenic for him to wash it properly.

solidgoldbrass · 10/09/2008 12:48

He obviously has some major issues and very crap interpersonal skills. I'd say the knob-licking thing is a fetish that's become a bit compulsive for him, but he is approaching it in all the wrong way: if you want to order a partner about in bed you have a chat beforehand to find out if the partner is remotely into sexual submission and agree to stop if he/she doesn;t like it.

You are well shot of him.

2cats2many · 10/09/2008 12:51

Oh

my

god!

Vile.

misselizabethbennett · 10/09/2008 12:54

As DS would say, what an utter nutter!

nervousal · 10/09/2008 13:05

Didn't you ever ask him why he as such a weirdo?

AllFallDown · 10/09/2008 13:14

Man posting ...

He's mental.

sugarpear · 10/09/2008 13:24

omg thats so wrong!

Gagg that you did it .Sorry. But his also a fruit cake with some real issues.

I cant wait to ask dh his take on this.

Its just so nasty i cant get over it i need to go lay down!!

expatinscotland · 10/09/2008 13:26

it's a porn thing.

now apparently the porn films have a lot of anal sex and then the woman goes and sucks his dong after he spews in her face or up her bum.

i'd dump him.

OneLieIn · 10/09/2008 13:28

Yuk, gross, buy him some baby wipes.

Or better still, ask him to do you that should soon stop him!

expatinscotland · 10/09/2008 13:29

honestly, you don't need someone who orders you around in bed or is that controlling or just looks down like you're some kind of slave.

Beetroot · 10/09/2008 13:34

I thought to myself as I opened this that I was broad minded and ntohing would worry me

this finished me off..

'He wants me to pull back the foreskin, lick all around to remove any traces of...well...his or mine...then put the foresking back over the head, make sure there's no 'remnants' on the outside, and then he would squeeze the end and if any more drops appeared wanted them licked off too. But in a totally non sexual way.'

AllFallDown · 10/09/2008 13:36

But it's not a porn thing, is it? That was my first thought. But no, it seems he wants a complete hygiene check, not the expression of power. In a way, this is even more disturbing, since it seems to be all his own work ...