I have started to think DH may be having an affair.

[nnamechanger]

Reasons

1. he has lost a bit of weight recently.
2. he has started going to the gym 3-4 times a week.
3. he keeps his phone on silent.
4. he goes "out for a drink after work" maybe once a week.
5. he goes "to practice his golf" 3 times a week.
6. he is'nt as interested in sex as he used to be.

nnamechanger - my DH started asking me if I was having an affair recently - in a jokey sort of way but he kept saying it . Prompted by so many of the things you have mentioned - losing weight, new clothes, new found confidence, more interest in work due to new projects and more responsiblity. I wasn't having an affair I might add.

What? What? What happened? I can't stand the suspense!! And FTR I think its innocent tho the 'niggle' is indeed a concern. Where has it all gone though?

Would like to know what happened too.

It doesn't sound good Worst part is the jumping on her after the pub/new things in bed - that's exactly what my H did during his affair. Even if he'd only been for a drink with her, he'd be really, ahem, 'up for it' when he got home. I obviously had no idea at the time. He was probably thinking of her all through it though!

Anyways... I hope this one has had a good conclusion...

I want to know what happened next for Bob and John

Namechanger - we all hope you are okay and just been too busy to post. And if you are not then I hope you are able to sort things out in a way that is best for you. Take care anyway.

I amazed he can fit all this activity in! Gym and golf?

The phone on silent thing is a bit strange - a friend of mine has a partner who suddenly started doing that and is also suspicious.

Have to say, sounds suspicious to me. If your niggle is right, do you have any idea who it could be?