What is it with men?

[ToBeOrNotToBee]

Story is matched with this man, we arranged a date which became quite short because of time constraints, I was flying out the next day. There was a lot of mutual flirting and attraction and we ended up in bed not long after.

Unfortunately, he suffered a bit of ED so nothing penetrative happened. He then got quite embarrassed and before I fully realised what was happening he was dressing and left shortly after, saying this was obviously a one time thing, meanwhile I'm starkers laying in bed below him.

I text him shortly after he left when I was still thinking things through. He didn't reply all day yesterday, today I get this pretty awful message, and I just feel disgusted.

Was this him making light of the situation or does he genuinely see me as only good for pleasuring him.

I assume that was the only way he can make Mr Floppy feel like a Real Boy.
Dodged!

I'm concerned for you @ToBeOrNotToBee .
1st you went off for sex with a stranger.
Then you apologised for his dysfunctional dick- why?
Then you're hurt because a twat who compensates for hosting 'failure' with lewd requests?

Why are you hurt and the why the hell were you apologising? I don't think the brutal world of dating is for you right now.

I really don't care for your passive aggressive concern quite frankly especially when you're making stuff up about me apologising, where am I apologising??
Very odd.

Fair enough 👌🏾

love the x oooh thats cheeky

Haha love this. Exactly what you should say OP

He can't even manage to keep himself physically healthy, and with manners from the gutter.

You definitely aren't missing anything there ! 😬

Charming

I was thinking the exact same!

What do you have to feel bad about? He literally ran out when he couldn't get hard. You should've blocked him immediately, not asked if he wanted to go for coffee.

yes, it is indeed 2026, maybe return back to 1946 with your attitude

People are allowed to have sex for whatever reason they want to. You’re demeaning the OP with the opening legs comment. Give your head a wobble, this situation is not on her! She can have sex with anyone she likes! Obviously this vile man is at fault, he doubled down to save face.

Move on. good luck with the next guy

He can't even write in proper English. What a loser.

I divorced in my mid 30s, and since then, FAR more often than not, there is too much prawn TV going on with every single man I've been involved with, and these men can't get hard, can't stay hard, can't ejaculate. It's endemic.

Then they dare to behave like complete morons.

You are well rid, OP.

Don't give this jive-turkey-ass man another thought.

Yuk what a prince. Block and better luck next time

Maybe cos shock horror some women like to fuck?!

True, but people only value what they have to work for.

This guy, who is obviously unpleasant, is pretty sure he has blown it and is simultaneously lashing out and taking a punt.

“Delusional as well as dysfunctional” and a block would have been my reply.

This man is utterly vile op and I am sorry that you had this experience.

It’s also sad in this day and age to see so many posters blaming you for his nasty behaviour.

You were genuine and he was not.

In 2026 it should theoretically be possible for two consenting adults to sleep together on the first date, for it not to go well, and to enjoy each other’s company in a respectful way nonetheless. Unfortunately this guy was a thoroughly nasty, cowardly, immature, hideous, selfish, excuse for a man who can’t take responsibility for his own inadequacies and you op deserve so much better 💐

Porn probably 🤷‍♀️Or it was a very well hidden secret in days gone by 🤷‍♀️

This.

He is a nasty vile man. Block him and don't talk to him again

Just another porn-soaked, red pill man who can't get it up.

Block and be thankful you've had a lucky escape OP. 🥂

He’s an idiot, his reply needs a suitable one referring to his lack of getting it up, make a snide comment back then block!