So basically, my partner and I were having a conversation about how we're working out and trying to lose weight. He said that since he wants to look lean and have lean muscle mass, and then later on gain weight, I told him that I don't like skinny guys if that's his goal. I also don't want to be skinny myself, since I like guys who are bulky, and I want to be more thick—not fat, but fit.
So he said, "Oh, we have different opinions, and we should, you know, look for something else since we want different things," and all that. I was hurt by that because of the way he was putting it out there.
Then I told him that I never liked him based on his physical appearance. Even when we started talking, I never actually saw him because we met online. I liked him as a person, and then later on, things happened between us. I told him that if I had met him at that time and judged him purely based on his physical appearance, I probably wouldn't have liked him because he was fat—not even bulky. He wasn't fit.
I apologized for not framing it correctly and for hurting him, but I honestly just don't know what else to say.
He himself said, "Oh, I know. I've told you this before. I know you probably would have never liked me like that because I've seen your taste in men but you saying this and after so long has just hurt me so deeply," and all that.
But hearing him say that, especially in this context and after we've been together for so long, has really hurt me very deeply and also I know it has hurt him as well maybe made him insecure but I don't know what to say or do so I really need advice.
Also before you say anything about fat shaming or anything of that sorts I feel everyone has their own opinions, preferences and choices so I won't shame anyone else for having theirs and neither would I do that to myself.