Should I be concerned about my partner’s colleague viewing my Facebook profile?

[Awiane]

Hi guys , need advice so my facebook setting is digital creator meaning i can see who view my profile , even if we arent friends , a girl from my partners work comes up almost every time , a few years back there was deleted messages between them to ? Should i ask her why does she keep viewing my profile or am i just being silly as it a public platform

Yes but a previous poster explain the Op ignores this as she is attention seeking

so I suppose we are just feeding that

You may not see them as i reported them and get them deleted , look i am a reasonable person. I have came on herefor advice and tbh i have had alot of crappy comments , people are so so judgemental

Op the poster is asking why you haven’t blocked the stalker on your fb feed 🙄

Yeah I think it’s weird. If you’re not friends that means she’s actively looking to view your stories. I would block her.

Who cares who’s looking at your profile, do you trust your husband or not?

This!
op, dh is probably loving the attention from 2 women obsessing over him.
stalker probably thinks your pass agg subtweeting her.
block her

OK so the issue here is you think your partner is having or has had an affair with this person. Other than deleted messages and the fact this woman is watching your socials what evidence do you have for this? Does your partner know you suspect this?

people seem to be deliberately misunderstanding your post it’s not some random person checking you out , it’s someone who previously had an inappropriate relationship with your partner. Yes I would find it worrying as it’s either still going on or she clearly is still interested in him and looking at your posts to garner information on your relationship. Either to work out if what he is telling her is correct or to see if there are any cracks that she can capstone on. There are no other reasons she would be checking out your bi weekly posts if she doesn’t even know you .. assuming like most people you don’t have some weirdly fascinating life 🤷‍♀️

So now I'm confused about Facebook. If you have an account which is not a business account and you put that you are a digital creator: can you see who has viewed your profile, posts and stories? Or is it just on stories you can see who has viewed you?

I don’t know… a dear friend had an affair with a man, he, his wife and her started making passive aggressive instagram posts at each other for a year. If she knows you know she’s looking, and you haven’t blocked her, she might think you’re posting at her. When someone’s in that mindset, everything could be about them. Don’t feed a troll

Thank you for saying this ! I have a very boring life , u 100% said everything i was thinking , i find it hard to articulate what i mean so thank you

Im not posting anything at all that would be directed at her.

Your partner and his “colleague” are clearly more than that! Don’t be an idiot!

So I certainly don't think you should be contacting or confronting her. She's not the one you're married to. Yes, it's suspicious and might suggest more of a relationship between them than you'd like. But you need to take that up with him, not her.

Look I’ve told you the best way to handle it and many others have. Nothing good comes from obsessively checking who views your stories. You know your intentions but she doesn’t. I’ve sat with df telling her no that definitely wasn’t about you, it was just a comment on a photo and df was convinced.
block the stalker

If they're not having an affair, she wants them to be.

Does she regularly come up for you as a friend suggestion?

Not that i have noticed

FB is showing her stories she's not searching them out which viewed my profile implies. I see loads of FB stories I have zero interest in and anyone paying FB as a digital creator us very active on a fairly dead platform and will have their stories active across loads of people. OP is delusional

And all the profiles that you see stories of that you aren’t interested in and aren’t friends in - will have a completely open profile so that anyone can view.

Simple solution for OP is to adjust settings. She either can’t work out how to or prefers her profile to be completely public

I don't know what this person's motive is, but I always find it interesting that people post public stories, then take stock of who jas viewed it.
Unless you're posting with the purpose of particular people seeing, does it matter who looks? I'd just assume that all and sundry are looking, as it's public.

Yes, you can - if you have a business page or a digital creator page.

Why does the Op even have this kind of profile given all she posting is the updates about her kids

Because she's trying to catch out a husband she doesn't trust and blame a woman who has no idea she's being reverse stalked?