The snoring

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Anyone else's partner snore? How do you deal with it?
Ive always struggled with the sound of snoring, it hurts my ears and I find it irritating. My boyfriend is a snoreer. Last night I ended up having to sleep on the sofa it was just so bad. I can't use ear plugs in case it stops me from hearing my alarm. Headphones I only use over head headphones so that's not really much of an option either. I love this man so much but I'm struggling with his snoring. It's not quite either

I sleep on the sofa when it’s bad tbh. It’s all I can but my dh does everything he can to not snore, pillows, sprays, cut out fizzy drinks and reduced alcohol. I can’t be cross if he’s trying himself to stop but I’ve no answer other than I do go to the sofa and when my adult daughters move out I intend to take a room for me

I use Alpine Sleep Deep earplugs and turned up my alarm. I’ve never missed a morning alarm, but also, I don’t wear them when I’m on call for work overnight. They are very comfortable - and I’ve tried many earplugs!

Alpine Sleep Deep. Try them. They might surprise you.

They do a “starter pack” with all three sizes on, for a little more than a single pair. This is really helpful to try out the different sizes and see which works best for you.

I sleep in the spare bed, now my daughter has left home it’s been possible. I love my sleep divorce arrangement, our sex life is still great, I sneak off into my bed after cuddles. I can hear him snoring through the wall some nights, I can tolerate this more than in my bloody ear laid next to him, 😝

Separate bedrooms. He snores and I suffer from tinnitus so I struggle to sleep and put the TV on in the middle of the night. Our marriage is very good and our sex life improved dramatically. We do manage to put up with each other on holiday though.

I brought myself some professional earplugs - the type that musicians and shooters use. Got them from Specsavers and had to be measured up, ie, had a special mould thing made. They are absolutely brilliant Mine were over £100 though and that was 20 years ago. Make some enquiries.

Just wanted to add - if women snored just as bad as men snored, there would be a cure for snoring.

For my dh hay-fever or alcohol trigger the snoring so in spring and summer he uses hay fever nasal sprays and he doesn't drink loads so I can tolerate occasionally bouts.

DH was a loud snorer and after years of me telling him to go to the GP he finally did and he was referred to be tested for sleep apnoea. He now has a CPAP machine which helps him breathe at night and he is no longer exhausted anymore, and I get undisturbed sleep.

Untreated sleep apnoea can cause high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, depression, exhaustion etc so it’s important to be assessed and treated. I wish there was more awareness around sleep apnoea as there are more important long term repercussions than just a partner being irritated by snoring.

Have a look at the NHS https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/sleep-apnoea/

I ended up sleeping on the sofa. I'm so tired. I love him to pieces and I know he can't help it, but he doesn't really do anything to help himself

Thank you I'll look into them, don't really like things in my ears but needs must

His snoring can be so bad sometimes you can hear it from down stairs, when they have days like that its definitely harder to cope with

Separate bedrooms is the only answer. I had years of putting up with DH’s snoring, he didn’t care how much it affected me, so as soon as the oldest left home I sent DH into their room.

Oh wow, pricey then. Haha there really would be

He has mentioned he should go to the doctors about it but never actually dose. Might have to talk to him about it. His doctor isnt great. Will usually palm him off for a different diagnosis then what he went in for.

Why would it be different if women snored? Are you suggesting that women engineers/scientists are not capable of finding a cure for snoring and only males are? It’s 2026!

I'm saying that if men were suffering as much as women currently suffer due to their partners snoring then there would be much more emphasis on this and steps taken to cure it by the medical professionals. But as it doesn't affect men as much, no-one really cares enough to look into it more closely.

I will put my hand up and say I’m a terrible snorer (F54) been bad for last 4 years

Following as it’s really affecting our relationship. DH sleeps in DS room when he’s away, living room floor when he’s not (he doesn’t like the idea of me sleeping downstairs security wise)

I’ve done a sleep trial, no suggestions. Alcohol seems to make no difference, I sometimes snore worse when I don’t have a drink. Tried earplugs for him, nasal inserts, mouth tape and chin strap for me - nothing has worked

If anyone has anything else to try - we are desperate!

And good luck to you OP, it’s awful when you both want to fix it but can’t

I'm sorry to hear nothing has helped.

We haven't figured out what makes it worse yet. Some nights are just bad as others. Last night was a can't handle it night. I feel for him as he often wakes him self up from it so dosent get a full night sleep

My dh also uses hayfever tablets and sprays and washes his nose out daily.
we also go to bed very late so that I’m exhausted in the hope I sleep before him! Not ideal but I’m used to 3-4 hours a night and manage well on that mostly.
re the sofa I make sure everything is down there, blanket ready and pillow behind sofa so it’s as comfy as possible with minimum fuss in the night

Is he overweight?

He uses hayfever tablets as it helps with his heat sensitivity. I usually have thin blankets and cushions around the living any way. Sleeping on the sofa isnt ideal but needs must. Ive asked him to call the doctors about it weather he will or not is a different story

He is yea. Keeps saying he'll lose it. Goes on a diet for a day or 2 than falls back into bad eating habits

My DP snores awfully.

I'm lucky I have a spare room, so he decamps to there. I don't stay at his because no spare room.

It's been miles better since he lost four stone though he's still very overweight. He doesn't drink so that's not it. All the other solutions failed.

GP refuses to send him for tests, just says lose weight (which to be fair has helped).

I also hate earplugs but I do use them on holiday, I do still hear the alarm. I use the wax ones that sit in your outer ear, so none of that 'thing in my ear' feeling.

For those of you sleeping on the sofa - nope. Send him to the sofa. That way he might start looking into ways to resolve it! No way would my DP let me sleep on the sofa due to HIS snoring, and no way would I!

I've seen this mouth tape stuff, if anyone hasn't tried this, might be worth a go:

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I won't share a bed with a snorer. Me and husband have had our own bedrooms for years.

He absolutely needs to see the GP.

I am not a dr but am guessing he needs a CPAP.
My DH's diagnosis was life changing.

He needs to take ownership and get it sorted!!

He dose need to lose weight to be fair and keeps saying he will but he'll last a day or 2 in a diet and than back to bad habits cheese is a weakness for him.
Usually he would sleep on the sofa but there was no waking him last night. So told him I'm sleeping in the sofa and went and slept on the sofa not even sure he reliased I was gone till I went to wake him up this morning