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Husband wearing thongs

208 replies

amyt88 · 26/08/2025 14:13

First of all, I've got no issue with my husband wearing thongs. He's not stealing my underwear or wanting to dress like a woman, he's got thongs designed specifically for men with a pouch at the front - big brands like Diesel and Emporio Armani have made them for a while. They're not lacy or frilly and they look masculine.

The problem is that we've got in-laws coming to stay with us for 3 months (their house had heavy flood damage caused by a leak, and rather than their house insurance putting them up in a hotel for 3 months, we offered to host them as we've got the space).

Our laundry gets hung in the study (which we don't use) as it's a large spacious room with direct sunlight, but it has no door and our in-laws will walk past it to get to their bedroom. There's no other space to hang laundry really, the study is the best place.

I've asked my husband if he can wear boxers/briefs temporarily as it could be embarrassing to see all his thongs up drying when we have guests staying, but he doesn't see the big deal and is like, "It's just underwear, I don't care if they find out I wear thongs?"

Would you be comfortable with this? I honestly don't mind him wearing thongs but wouldn't want him to be teased over it if in-laws found out. I'm more trying to protect him really, but he doesn't see the big deal and doesn't care if they find out.

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Tryingtokeepgoing · 26/08/2025 15:42

You could just get a door for the study, and then (a) you have a usable study and (b) his parents need never know about his underwear 😂

SmurfnoffIce · 26/08/2025 15:43

hereismydog · 26/08/2025 15:29

I’ve just conjured the most terrible mental image of my DP’s hairy arse cheeks in a thong.

More to the point, where do the BALLS go?! 😟

The same place they do in a pair of briefs, I assume?

AdoraBell · 26/08/2025 15:43

As he isn’t bothered then he doesn’t have to change what he wears. If ILs comment then just say - it’s his choice. If they persist commenting tell them to talk to their son about it, not you.

AdoraBell · 26/08/2025 15:44

As he isn’t bothered then he doesn’t have to change what he wears. If ILs comment then just say - it’s his choice. If they persist commenting tell them to talk to their son about it, not you.

LoveItaly · 26/08/2025 15:46

engineeredbynature · 26/08/2025 14:52

if my DH wore a thong, i think that I would die laughing😂

I suspect his parents will do too, if they get to see them 😂

Devilsmommy · 26/08/2025 15:49

MounjaroMounjaro · 26/08/2025 14:48

Few things would give me more of an ick than a man coming into my bedroom wearing a thong. I don't know whether I'd laugh or cry.

I wouldn't want his family to see his thongs because I wouldn't want to see the pity on their faces as they realised what I had to put up with.

🤣🤣🤣 I think thongs on men would definitely cause a piss yourself laughing reaction whilst at the same time causing a full body cringe 😬 OP let them see his underwear and then hopefully for you, when they keep ripping the piss out of him, he'll get rid. Win win I reckon 😂

Wreckinball · 26/08/2025 15:51

grimacing at the thought of monster skid marks and desperate to know which washing powder/liquid is up to that job? (may help tackle muddy sports gear)

Maddy70 · 26/08/2025 15:51

Your husband can wear whatever he feels comfy in why do you think your in laws will be remotely interested?

TheCurious0range · 26/08/2025 15:53

If DB wore thongs my parents would laugh about it for years. Ultimately they're his parents and it's his underwear, step away from the madness

sweetpickle2 · 26/08/2025 15:58

Beachtastic · 26/08/2025 15:26

It's pants in the style of a double-ended dildo though, to be fair 🫣

Is it?! Have I misunderstood what a thong and/or what a double ended dildo is???

Some very odd responses on this thread- may I suggest if the idea of a man in a thong tickles you or grosses you out that much, that you get out more. They're just pants.

OP I think you're being weird to worry about this, but just dry them on the radiator in your bedroom if you're that bothered. If a man was asking his wife to change her style of undies to something less "skimpy" for fear of offending visitors there'd be outrage, and rightly so.

NoSleepAtNight · 26/08/2025 15:58

I don’t think they will notice, and they might think there just yours 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheCurious0range · 26/08/2025 15:59

Wreckinball · 26/08/2025 15:51

grimacing at the thought of monster skid marks and desperate to know which washing powder/liquid is up to that job? (may help tackle muddy sports gear)

They might be these ones, no crack string

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TheCurious0range · 26/08/2025 16:00

Wreckinball · 26/08/2025 15:51

grimacing at the thought of monster skid marks and desperate to know which washing powder/liquid is up to that job? (may help tackle muddy sports gear)

They might be these ones, no crack string www.farfetch.com/uk/shopping/men/diesel-logo-waistband-thong-item-29550800.aspx

Tay596 · 26/08/2025 16:01

While men in thongs is an instant ick for me, it's his parents that are visiting so if he's not bothered then I don't know why you would be.

MyCoralHedgehog · 26/08/2025 16:02

Just hang them over one of the hot pipes in airing cupboard overnight, they’ll dry by the morning

tachetastic · 26/08/2025 16:14

Sorry @amyt88 but I question any OP post where the basis for their argument is "I don't mind but I don't want them to be embarrassed".

You mean that YOU don't want to be embarrassed. Your DH doesn't give a shit if his own parents see his washed underwear drying and neither should you.

I would take a good look at your life and if this is the biggest problem you have then you should give your DH a big hug and celebrate how amazingly lucky you both are.

Happymover · 26/08/2025 16:16

It might be a bit weird if he’s parading around the house or sitting at the table wearing one with his big hairy arse in full view. But I doubt his parents will notice otherwise or even care 😀.

Usernameunavailableagain12 · 26/08/2025 16:17

Men in thongs 🤢😂

TeamBuffalo · 26/08/2025 16:17

Why would you need to protect a grown man from being embarrassed by something he's not in the least embarrassed about?

ThatMellowSheep · 26/08/2025 16:18

My 27 year old son wears them . I don’t really care . I expect your in-laws won’t care .

IfYoureLeavingTakeMeToo · 26/08/2025 16:19

Beachtastic · 26/08/2025 15:26

It's pants in the style of a double-ended dildo though, to be fair 🫣

Its what now?

WonderingWanda · 26/08/2025 16:19

What's the worst that can happen if his parents see them and then take the piss out of him? I think a man who is confident enough to wear thong is not going to be bothered by that.

Rollingdown · 26/08/2025 16:23

Just hide them behind duvet covers on the line