Reasonable ick?

[Mondaybluez]

Guy 39. No kids. Works for his brothers company. Lives in his mates house - his mate has moved into his girlfriends- so essentially his rent pays his mates mortgage. Smokes alot of cannabis and drinks alot and has recently disclosed to me he has no savings at all and is working off the books and has been for 10 years plus for his brothers company ?

No pension. No ni contributions. No stamp at all.

Am I reasonable to get the ick?

Run

Oh ffs, your standards would have to be rock bottom before you'd consider dating him!

You shouldn’t be feeling the ick - you should be 100% repulsed.

It's your life so you don't need anyone else's reinforcement. If you have the 'ick' then that's enough justification.

Yes. Hard pass.

He’s living like he’s fresh out of university.

What’s his plans when his friend wants the house back?
What does working off the books mean? Cash in hand?

The drinking and cannabis is a no from me without the teenager life style.

Not cash but not down as an employee for his brothers company at all so he pays no tax ni etc etc no pension savings nothing

Thank you. What's your opinions?

😂

Of course not

Is the sex unbelievable? How are you getting this far…

What was your life like growing up, that you thought this sort of person would make a good boyfriend, OP?

You have to ask?

Man baby (not even man child)

Avoid, run, run, avoid

Hahaha NO. Lacking in alot of ways....

Yeah you have a point. Deffo not

So how does his brother process the wages he gives to him within his own financial statements?

No idea! But deffo not properly....

Maybe as self employed contractor? Or expenses? Not sure but I just know he doesn't

So all that AND crap sex?

Is there anything, like anything at all, that might be a redeeming feature?

I wouldn’t feel inspired either, especially if the sex was not great. What made you want to date him in the first place?

Throw this one back, OP

Sometimes you just have to write it down and read it back eh?
you can 100% do better than this, you’re worth so much more ❤️

This was also going to be my question 😂

However even good sex isn’t enough to hold a shit show together.

Bin him off.

Urm actually - no. The more I think of it the more I'm struggling to see redeemable features... we have har a laugh at times but overall it's lacking !

Thank you lovie

He's gone. Has been for a few weeks but it's been on my mind if I was being judgey...I'm not perfect I don't own my home I rent but everything in it is mine, I have kids and savings and work hard to make sure I have a pot for a rainy day... just wondered if it was me being a cow - thank god I'm not haha

That's true. But it's a bonus haha.

Never finished with him ever, not even once. Not great at all.

Oh man why did I even bother with this one haha