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Reasonable ick?

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Mondaybluez · 25/08/2025 16:43

Guy 39. No kids. Works for his brothers company. Lives in his mates house - his mate has moved into his girlfriends- so essentially his rent pays his mates mortgage. Smokes alot of cannabis and drinks alot and has recently disclosed to me he has no savings at all and is working off the books and has been for 10 years plus for his brothers company ?

No pension. No ni contributions. No stamp at all.

Am I reasonable to get the ick?

OP posts:
Backfromholareyou · 02/09/2025 06:18

I think you need to put all this to bed OP. I also have been aware of all your threads about this person. You got the “Ick” about him. He got the “ick” about you given he ended it weeks ago.

So just file under to “another shitty relationship to forget forever”

Original poster
Mondaybluez · 02/09/2025 08:05

Judithdances · 01/09/2025 20:57

Ok crack on starting multiple threads about someone I wouldn’t want within a 5 mile radius of my children, a druggie gross loser who finished with you.

and yet you’re wasting brain space on navel gazing about him.

utterly baffling but I’ll leave you to it

It's not about him it's about the whole situation and the patterns I've realised I do.

Some people have therapy. Some people cope better with things than others. Some people have spiralling why what when thoughts. Some people are autistic like myself who find it hard to understand the full picture without full explanations and spiral when it doesn't make sense.

I'm hurting noone by asking for opinions

OP posts:
Backfromholareyou · 02/09/2025 08:29

I think the only learning from this is

Avoid having a relationship with anyone
a) unemployed
b) a druggie
c) drinks too much
d) tax evader

Backfromholareyou · 02/09/2025 08:30

Please say you never introduced him to your children or had him over to your family home?

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