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Tell me your ‘unreasonable’ relationship dealbreakers

266 replies

Ehhtfc · 02/08/2024 19:30

So I’ve said ‘unreasonable’ not because it’s unreasonable to you but may be to someone else. Maybe others think your dealbreaker is diva-ish but you don’t? 😂

So this excludes any unanimous relationship dealbreakers such as cheating, nasty behaviour etc.

I will also welcome posts around ending it for a reason that seems trivial to others but not for you!

I will start, I just could not be married to someone who worked away, for instance in the forces.

OP posts:
blacksax · 02/08/2024 22:02

Anyone who thinks he must be more intelligent than me because I'm only a woman.

moonbeamy · 02/08/2024 22:06

Does not eat vegetables.
Thinks they are superior to others.
Swears often.
Smokes.
Is a workaholic.
Plays golf.
Believes things are “women’s work”.
Only wears sports clothes.
Does not read books.
Is too into his appearance

80skid · 02/08/2024 22:09

lastofthesmalltownplayboys · 02/08/2024 20:05

If they live with their mum, order a korma, fave band is Coldplay, jizzes over marvel/starwars/pokemon

💯 to all of these!

Ehhtfc · 02/08/2024 22:12

StrawberryWater · 02/08/2024 20:15

Anyone who's a policeman - been there, done that and he was a rude fucking pig and horrible misogynist. Never again!

Bad breath or teeth - No. My sister went out with a gummy fella and her tale of licking his gums made me sick in my mouth.

Low sex drive. I don't have demands by I'm not someone that could put up with once a year.

Anyone who smokes - grim.

Anyone that likes a flutter - will never, ever, get involved with a gambler again. Not after my ex almost ruined me.

Dirty nails and nose pickers - not coming near my lady garden with troll fingers thank you very much!

Some fantastic ones here and some very relatable to me but this from @StrawberryWater takes the cake

‘My sister went out with a gummy fella and her tale of licking his gums made me sick in my mouth.‘

🤣🤣🤣

OP posts:
Ehhtfc · 02/08/2024 22:17

@MillshakePickle no one wants to have sex with a penis they can barely feel

OP posts:
2AND2GC · 02/08/2024 22:19

Smoker
Heavy drinker
No respect for his health (eats badly, doesn't exercise)
Financial irresponsibility
Bad tempered

( ^ the dream, eh?! )

BirdCaged · 02/08/2024 22:20

@lastofthesmalltownplayboys can we also add Maroon 5 to be interchangeable with Coldplay please?

Yorkshirewithlove · 02/08/2024 22:24

wtfissummer · 02/08/2024 20:08

😀. Supporting the hun rangers and I'm not joking either.

Actually I think a deal breaker would be someone whose whole identity revolved around the football team they support

I laughed out loud at this :)

TheCadoganArms · 02/08/2024 22:24

Smokers.
Non active people.
Fussy eaters
People who have no hobbies or interests.

Years ago I went on an 'activity date' where we hired a couple of bikes in richmond park. It was a gorgeous sunny day, the park looked beautiful, the plan was to do a circuit of the park and then have a nice pub lunch by the river........but......they could not ride a bike...literally kept wobbling along before falling over sideways. Any attraction just evaporated there and then.

Femme2804 · 02/08/2024 22:25

Anti vaxxers
uneducated
someone on benefit (sorry)
not in a high paying job. Sorry as i’m in high paying jobs aswell i want man who equal in capability and educations.

i sound so snobby. But i’m not trust me 😂

TheCadoganArms · 02/08/2024 22:27

SwordToFlamethrower · 02/08/2024 21:16

Dirty finger nails day to day.

A pinky toe that doesn't touch the floor. Makes me vom (sorry!)

The last one is superbly specific.

Yorkshirewithlove · 02/08/2024 22:29

I would run a mile from a poser/too well preened/ a skinny cyclist/a tosser who plays golf/ someone who eats like a savage/drives a small (old woman's car)/a tight arse who won't spend anything/ a quantity surveyor/architects-- as any l have met would bore you to death 😭

PermanentTemporary · 02/08/2024 22:31

Conspiracy theorists. Once had a man explain to me that Elizabeth 1 was actually a man. Apparently this batshit theory that disregards about a million pieces of evidence is a thing.

Bitten nails
Non readers
Non music listeners - but unreasonably, I also don't want to be with a real musician either
Amateur artists or writers - professionals, fine, but I have done my time building up the ego of an aspiring creative and I won't do it again
Self employed people

GotoutoftheUKphew · 02/08/2024 22:33

Everything you all have mentioned plus I loathe men in red trousers. Total deal breaker for me. Gives me the immediate ick.

Edasseri · 02/08/2024 22:34

lastofthesmalltownplayboys · 02/08/2024 20:05

If they live with their mum, order a korma, fave band is Coldplay, jizzes over marvel/starwars/pokemon

That’s so funny that ordering a korma is a deal breaker 😂😂

C0rdeliaChase · 02/08/2024 22:35

Voting Tory.

MapleTreeValley · 02/08/2024 22:35

I once dumped someone for snoring (I didn't tell him that was the reason as it seemed mean). Not keen on beards either.

Cardolino · 02/08/2024 22:40

Snifflers
Drinks white wine
mustache/beard
no initiative
Wears Ecco shoes
straggly hair
calls their daughter ‘little princess’ or similar
has bumper stickers

TheCadoganArms · 02/08/2024 22:40

Edasseri · 02/08/2024 22:34

That’s so funny that ordering a korma is a deal breaker 😂😂

In fairness people who order kormas probably have heads in their freezer, human skin lampshades and an extensive collection of Radiohead albums.

Taffydog · 02/08/2024 22:40

Anyone who posts cringe memes on social media - we only have one life be happy and that sort of shit

tells me to smile - just want to stab them

a Vegan

unable to have ‘normal sex’ eg only wants to cum through blow jobs

constantly farting

unrealistic plans for the future

someone who has a list of things they’re going to do but never actually does anything

stingy men

man child

man who describes himself as daft as if it’s a good thing

men who describe themselves as a nice guy - they never actually are!!

TonyeKnausgaard · 02/08/2024 22:40

Too short (under 5'10)
Never taken party drugs because they're too much of a square
Small hands
Gets up at the crack of dawn to go for a run as a personality trait
Doesn't pay me as much attention as I'd like
Pays me too much attention
Wants to go halves on nice restaurant meals all the time
Acts like a big baby about spiders
Can't spell/uses excessive incorrect grammar
Peppers their texts with unnecessary emojis (especially these - 💃🕺)
Not intelligent enough to ponder the universe
Stresses about germs
Doesn't smell right

TheCadoganArms · 02/08/2024 22:41

Small hands

Poor Jeremy Beadle.

WhereYouLeftIt · 02/08/2024 22:41

On a first date, he ordered a pina colada and pineapple juice. No second date.

TonyeKnausgaard · 02/08/2024 22:42

Taffydog · 02/08/2024 22:40

Anyone who posts cringe memes on social media - we only have one life be happy and that sort of shit

tells me to smile - just want to stab them

a Vegan

unable to have ‘normal sex’ eg only wants to cum through blow jobs

constantly farting

unrealistic plans for the future

someone who has a list of things they’re going to do but never actually does anything

stingy men

man child

man who describes himself as daft as if it’s a good thing

men who describe themselves as a nice guy - they never actually are!!

Yes, agreed about cringe memes. Total turn off!

Singleandproud · 02/08/2024 22:42

I've been single a long time, this list is definitely why....
Anyone who still drinks to get drunk
Anyone who smokes or vapes or has ever done drugs, any one with random insignificant tattoos.
Anyone who casually swears
Anyone who has ever been in trouble with the police
Anyone who believes TWAW or is into Andrew Tate
Anyone who spends their money too easily or who is too tight
Anyone who is married to their job
Anyone who is work shy
Anyone who preexisting MH issues or significant physical issues - I grew up with parents with MH issues and don't want to end up caring for a partner or walking on egg shells. If they developed a condition during the relationship then we'd cope with it
Someone with bad breath or who doesn't care for their teeth or other basic hygiene