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Tell me your ‘unreasonable’ relationship dealbreakers

266 replies

Ehhtfc · 02/08/2024 19:30

So I’ve said ‘unreasonable’ not because it’s unreasonable to you but may be to someone else. Maybe others think your dealbreaker is diva-ish but you don’t? 😂

So this excludes any unanimous relationship dealbreakers such as cheating, nasty behaviour etc.

I will also welcome posts around ending it for a reason that seems trivial to others but not for you!

I will start, I just could not be married to someone who worked away, for instance in the forces.

OP posts:
MillshakePickle · 02/08/2024 20:22

I must be a terrible person, but here is my list...

Wears brown shoes

Wears sliders or sandals with socks

Turtle necks

Under 5'10

Small cock

Receding hairline...bald is fine, mostly bald still fine, but starting the recede and it's just glares at me.

Doesn't read

Only does sun/drinking holidays ie. Ibiza

A lads lad - you know the type

Does not use correct pronunciation of basic words or doesn't use the word "the"
Ie. Went to hospital last week.

Uses baby voices

Lip smacking, noisy eating, teeth kisser

A biscuit dunker. No need to ruin a perfectly hot beverage with crumbs

Hairy knuckles

Wears tighty whitey's

A suck your whole face off kisser

A low sex drive

Doesn't like music

Doesn't tip

I'm sure there's a tonne more

MillshakePickle · 02/08/2024 20:23

cocoloco23 · 02/08/2024 20:10

Anyone who doesn’t vote. Anyone with a goatee. Police or fire officer.

Good one adding that to mine

kshaw · 02/08/2024 20:26

I once dumped someone after a couple of dates as his hands were too soft 🤣 my standards are pretty high after marrying an idiot. Will never settle again, I'd rather be alone

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 02/08/2024 20:27

If they think it's "just a bit of weed" and not the means to keep millions of children and vulnerable people in slavery

Smokers

Thinks toilet humour or crude jokes are funny

Likes football

Doesn't like martial arts..

CLEO42 · 02/08/2024 20:27

A grown man who plays computer games/xbox/ps wouldn’t get past my first hurdle

LoveSandbanks · 02/08/2024 20:28

Someone who doesn’t drive. I could understand if there was a medical reason (probably still couldn’t get past it) but not someone who just hasn’t bothered.

Dearg · 02/08/2024 20:28

Anyone who wears football/ rugby/ team sports shirt if not actually participating in said sport
Anyone who goes to car meets - classic cars, specific car-type owner clubs
Anyone who goes for a ‘pint’ every night.
Anyone with an extreme or fundamentalist religion

wtfissummer · 02/08/2024 20:29

Lookingforunicorns · 02/08/2024 20:18

Antivaxxers
Trump supporters
Smokers
Bad teeth
Rude to waiting staff
Liars

None of these I would have thought were unreasonable

RainbowColouredRainbows · 02/08/2024 20:29

Anyone who doesn't brush their teeth twice a day, every day.
I've also ended it with people because reverse snobbery and having a poorly-paid, low-skilled job (collected trollies at a supermarket) with no aspirations or drive.

GlitterDragon · 02/08/2024 20:30

If they are grossed out by periods and repulsed by period sex.

Charlie2121 · 02/08/2024 20:33

Smokers

Labour voters

Anyone with children from a previous relationship

PurpleBugz · 02/08/2024 20:35

Watches sports

Not a reader

Too much tongue kissing

Short text messages

Cuddly sleepers

Using phrases like 'hands on dad' or 'help with housework'

A certain sex face

Not changing their bedding weekly

Hairy backs and toes

Old worn boxers. Brightly coloured boxers

Watches porn

coxesorangepippin · 02/08/2024 20:36

Religious
Long fingers nails
Gamer

ComedicPivot · 02/08/2024 20:36

Dealbreakers;

No ambition and a poor work ethic

Someone who goes on holiday with his mates, and leaves me to pick up the slack back home

Someone who is not a joint partner e.g. keeps his money to himself as he earns more, when I’m doing most of the household and DC stuff

Someone who doesn’t respect their health and eats loads of shit, smokes, doesn’t exercise.

Watches porn

Ogles other women

Disrespectful to women, other people

PetulantPenguin · 02/08/2024 20:37

People who kill insects unnecessarily, bad manners, not willing to share finances - I can't do theirs and mine, drugs, pessimism, mean about other people for no reason. Honestly theirs quite a lot 😂

Theunamedcat · 02/08/2024 20:40

Weed smoker

People who believe that cannabis cures everything and the UK government covers it up for "big pharma" to make money

Serious conspiracy theorist (I don't mind people who "think" their might be aliens out there cannot stand the ones who absolutely believe we are being kidnapped and anal probed)

People who don't like cats

seensome · 02/08/2024 20:45

Playing constantly on video games, won't show me attention, I'll give you no attention, out you go.

SamW98 · 02/08/2024 20:48

Not being into music or has very bland MOR musical taste.

For example their favourite acts are Adele, Ed Sheeran, Phil Collins, Celine Dion - that sort of thing. Dull and safe

Not looking football. I wouldn’t want someone obsessed but not liking it at all wouldn’t work for me.

DodoTired · 02/08/2024 20:51

My deal-breaker used to be if a guy has not read Anna Karenina 😄 (I’m serious 🤣 my friends always asked after a date - has he read Anna Karenina??)

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 02/08/2024 20:51

I posted earlier but i want to change my answer to include almost every other thing on this thread!

Justleaveitblankthen · 02/08/2024 20:51

Anyone who peppers every day speech with the F word is a huge turn off.

Save it for when you stub your toe, you fucking knobhead 😁

SamW98 · 02/08/2024 20:55

Crap tattoos - the ones that look like their kids drawn them with a felt tip pen

Cosycover · 02/08/2024 20:56

Someone who goes fishing.

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/08/2024 20:58

I am an asshole. I know this.

Here is my list.

Men who wear trainers all the time and have one pair of shoes only to be worn at weddings and funerals.

I once went out with a man who look genuinely perplexed when, having said he doesnt own a suit, I asked what he wore for funerals or weddings or interviews. So not owning a suit. He did wear shoes for our one date but thinking about it, probably also ticked item one above.

Wearing tracksuit bottoms, or tracksuits in general, for anything except actual sport/training.

Men who are suspicious of anything "furrin" food wise. Once was asked (by no suit man actually) if I ever fed my kids "normal" food as I mentioned that they had had enchiladas that night for dinner. "Normal" food was apparently ham egg and chips.

Men who can give out "jokes" but cant take them back.

Men who think Star Wars is shit.

Men who think that they and everyone else is defined by the car they drive. Once had a bloke (not a date, a customer at the pub) say that they didnt take a person seriously because he had a "shit" car.

There are more.....

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/08/2024 21:00

Oh and obviously golfers/cyclists/iron man men