Tell me your ‘unreasonable’ relationship dealbreakers

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So I’ve said ‘unreasonable’ not because it’s unreasonable to you but may be to someone else. Maybe others think your dealbreaker is diva-ish but you don’t? 😂

So this excludes any unanimous relationship dealbreakers such as cheating, nasty behaviour etc.

I will also welcome posts around ending it for a reason that seems trivial to others but not for you!

I will start, I just could not be married to someone who worked away, for instance in the forces.

Firemen.

Thinking that there are unanimous deal breakers.

Anyone who spends their weekend paddle boarding, kayaking, hiking, cycling in Lycra etc.

I have more. I wouldn't give a second glance if:

They run marathons.
They own a bike.
They haven't seen Game of Thrones.
They haven't seen Stranger Things.
They don't think Southpark is funny.
They don't own any books or read.
They are a picky eater.
They have small hands.
They don't go to the dentist.
They are sober.
They hate Christmas.
They don't like cheese.
They take their steak well done.
They play any instrument except guitar.
They are a rubbish singer.

I'll think of more for sure.

Not sure I could really gel with someone who was very religious.

A gamer. Not sexy.

People who watch soaps and things like this morning, its essentially a televised verison of the daily star.

People who can’t cope with basic adult life, for example calling paying a bill life admin and claiming its a difficult task.

Inactive lazy people, not bothering to exercise properly is the same as not bothering to eat fruit and veg.

People without hobbies, mainly as they do have a hobby, buts its watching hours upon hours of crap TV and generally doing nothing.

Someone without secure close friends who they prioritise to make sure they catch up, spend time together etc. If they can’t prioritise a friendship, they likely can’t maintain a relationship.

These are my silly ones…my true list is much longer!

Gamer.
Religious.
Wears pyjamas
Doesnt read
Doesn’t like animals
Wears slippers
Jangles change in their pockets
Salad dodger
Wears a jumper over shoulders and ties it in a knot
Says pacific instead of specific
Doesnt understand the genius of Victoria Wood

99% of these are reasonable to me!

my genuinely unreasonable one is: wears glasses

Looking at other women
Porn
Fancying other women
Smoking / vaping
Weed
Flirting

Dirty finger nails day to day.

A pinky toe that doesn't touch the floor. Makes me vom (sorry!)

not brushing their teeth!!!! can't bear it

I absolutely 100% agree. It is loathsome. My husband struggles with this and he tries to pronounce, but struggles after a lifetime of lazy speaking.

Anime

Someone who doesn't clean their poo smears off the sides inside the toilet!
I'm with someone who was like that and I just told them straight up that's a major turn off and I've not seen it since 🤣

Ah ok unreasonable!

Small penis

Likes metal music.

Arsehole

Smoker
Heavy drinker
Drug user
Gambler
Vegan
Bad teeth
Obese
No ambition

A mummies boy who emptied the water from a a can of carrots all over the kitchen because he 'didn't know colanders had holes in', nope I'm not training you

anyone who is-
woke
pro-vax
not a Christian

I love these 🤣

Mine:

Talking about roads, routes and motorways (Which way did you come…?) Pins in my eyes with boredom.
If Phantom of the Opera is their favourite film
Doesn’t read
Faffs
Texting small talk / inane texts

complains about the price of everything
wears bad shoes
repeats the same conversations because it makes them look good
talks in a baby voice to the dog in public

Men who wear shorts on a night out
Crocs
Sliders
Hats
Beards

Me or them? Obviously we already know about me!

Likes football
Bad teeth - uneven, stained, too many fillings
Bad breath
Smokes (anything, and that includes vapes)
Smells bad (not necessarily BO, just not a smell I actively like & am attracted to)
Bad SPAG

Stupid trivial reasons - I didn't end it over this, but 2 (no, 3!) minor things that massively contributed to me getting progressively less invested in a really long & serious relationship were 1) him always laughing at his own lame jokes (no-one else is laughing....) and 2) he regularly did a coughing/choking/clearing throat type sound. It was only short, but it happened multiple times per day and in the end it became like Chinese water torture and gave me a totally disproportionate rage every time he did it. Ditto sniffing regularly - just blow your goddamn nose!!

Also had a girlfriend who kept saying "bless their heart" when telling a story about anyone who ever did anything stupid, or hearing it from a 3rd party. That also made me feel stabby.