Dirty old man....

[Creitty]

Hello I'm new....
My partner (doesn't actually live with me) is so unhygienic. He smells musty when he's slept in his bed. Today I found skid marks on my sheet after he'd stayed over. I've pleaded with him to change his clothes/bedding and take a daily shower but he just gets very defensive and bad tempered. Not told him about the skiddies yet, not sure how to approach it with him! Advice? Thanks

He's disgusting 🤢 and you say he is kind and sweet, but honestly being this dirty and gross and expecting you to sleep with him is disrespectful and inconsiderate.

OP that's really shit.
Oh hang on...

Not being funny, but if this were a dog people wouldn’t be so forgiving 🤣🫢🙈it’s gross OP.

Ugh I've seen so many of these threads on here. Why would you let him anywhere near your bed if he smells musty, never mind the rest of it.

What was he doing to get skids on the bed anyway? How filthy would a bum need to be for that to happen? It's not like he was wiping with the sheets... is it?

Oh dear! I doubt he’ll ever change and as he gets older, will probably get worse. Brace yourself!

If he didn’t clean his bottom properly it would suggest there’s a lot of bacteria floating around in his underpants and you are being intimate with him? Time to up your standards OP.

If you stick with him, and it happens again, take a pic to prove it because he probably won’t believe you. Yuk.

OP , very few of us want to hurt another's feelings but there is a limit. Just tell Jim he's not for you

Him, not Jim unless he's really called Jim 😂😂😂

H isn't sweet and he isn't caring as you say @Creitty.
If he was he would wash himself and respect you and himself.

That was his parents job. If he still doesn't understand the need to wash and maintain a basic standard of hygiene, you're fighting a lost cause. Only you can decide if you want to spend your life with someone who is frankly disgusting.

strip him and hose him down in your garden, get him to use soap in all his cracks then tell him to fuck right out of your life, please!

Buy him a Karcher for his birthday.

😂😂😂😂😂

He clearly doesn't care about you or your feelings though if he's leaving a road map on your linen.

You can’t change people who don’t want to change.

He gets defensive and bad tempered when you say it- as you would really if someone told you you smelt! If this is literally his only negative then sit down about it properly with him, or do the awful buying a gift that is actually shower gel, deodorant and after shave thing.

He left shit on your sheets. Dump him 🤢

Oh, FGS op, why, just why?

I'm a bloke who is on his own now (widower) and I manage to be very clean. I do it for myself as I can't stand the thought I might smell. I'd be ashamed if someone else thought I stank.

And you sleep with this dirty bastard? Jeez.

Why on earth do you want to have sex with this man? It would make me feel sick.

Him - Hey baby 😘 fancy some action between the sheets?

You - The showers that way… 👉🏻

But seriously… What grown up bloke needs to be told to take a shower? Yuk! 🤮

Tell him that he can't expect you to be intimate or close to him when he won't keep himself clean.That it's really not fair. Would he accept lack of hygiene from you?

Good luck. It must awful. l wouldn't tolerate it.

Show him his stains and tell him he is not getting back in your bed until he has showered. Make him shower at yours and stand next to him with a long hard bristled brush and carbolic soap.

By keeping my self respect and not being that desperate? Is what I would say if this was a friend asking and would wonder why they are that attracted to this person

The skids would give me the ick big time.

He sounds really hot and sexy. If you let him go will you pass on my number? 🤢🤮