DD is 55 and sleeps during the day

[longpathtohappiness]

DH had the day off today and he has done nothing. He has sat on the sofa since getting up and now he is asleep. He had a health check yesterday and all seems okay. It's not a new thing, he has been like it for a while now but getting worse

His father was just the same... help me... MIL had Church and her own hobbies and now I totally now understand why.

I feel like a flaky friend as a lot of my "mum" friends from when DC were little have fallen by the wayside as DH will not go out as a couple.

I'm now in a new territory of trying to make new friends as DC are growing up and will be leaving the nest soon.

HELP ME - tried talking IRL to people but they don't get it.

It definitely sounds like you have more issues than him sleeping. He sounds lazy and cruel. Why are you doing so much for your adult children? They can do their own washing, cooking and life management.

What can you do?

I would leave. Don't waste anymore of your life.

My DC do their own washing but yes you guys are right, I'm doing to much for them. Thank you MN

If he's had his health checked then he's fine.

This is so far from the truth that I’m not sure whether to cry or laugh.
MANY people have chronic health conditions that take YEARS to be diagnosed. And they usually end up been diagnosed as ‘depression’ instead

I have no idea what’s going with this man in particular, but I’d hope people wouldn’t make that sort of assumption.

@longpathtohappiness since when is your dh sleeping like this?
By any chance, did his sleepiness get worse after catching a virus if some sort?

We have just come back in from food shopping. Taking bets on how long it will be before he falls asleep.....

You clearly resent him hugely if something as minor as a Saturday afternoon nap winds you up to this extent.

lifeispainauchocolat

OK fair point. Maybe it's me !