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Anyone into tantric sex?

123 replies

Newthings · 31/12/2023 14:30

Just what it says. Met someone new and he's mentioned it. Anyone any experience of this? I'm assessing whether it's out of my comfort zone!

OP posts:
CurlsnSunshinetime4tea · 01/01/2024 02:42

sounds really well suited to men with erectile disorder, no need for an erection.

Teenagersscarethelivinshitoutofme · 01/01/2024 03:06

rickandmorts · 31/12/2023 15:43

Is your someone new Brian from Hull?

That was my first thought when I read the title 😁 though he must be ancient by now.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/01/2024 03:30

NeverDropYourMooncup · 31/12/2023 20:03

'I can't feel you.'

'It's Tantric Sex. You don't sustain an erection, it's all about the kundalini energy'

'Have you come already?'

'No, it's Tantric Sex. I don't have to ejaculate, as that wastes my kundalini energy'

'You've gone soft.'

'No, it's Tantric Sex, it's merely time for you to worship my lingam for three hours with your finger up my arse until I roar at you like a tiger. You can rub yourself on a pillow if you're that desperate to give up your sacred energies afterwards'.

'Ummm...tell you what, Keith, let's just keep this platonic from now on'.

I also thought it was Brian? Am very confused.

oneflewoverthe · 01/01/2024 04:16

Sounds boring as hell! These replies are hilarious though.

decemberwasshit · 01/01/2024 04:29

Best thread on Mumsnet in a long time 🤣

NewtonPulsifer · 01/01/2024 04:49

Well now you can’t give it a go even if you wanted to because all you’ll be thinking about are cardis and the Rose and Jim theme song whilst wondering whodunnit on Poirot.

HappyHedgehog247 · 01/01/2024 05:01

Please can you give it a go and report back ASAP.

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/01/2024 05:05

HappyHedgehog247 · 01/01/2024 05:01

Please can you give it a go and report back ASAP.

ASAP?

I am just going outside to have tantric sex and may be a while.

Scoring out outside in fairness is optional…. But a bit cold this time of year.

isthismylifenow · 01/01/2024 05:15

HappyHedgehog247 · 01/01/2024 05:01

Please can you give it a go and report back ASAP.

ASAP and tantric sex shouldn't be referred to in the same line.

OP will be in (literally) for the long haul.

Don't forget to have a good meal and a cup of tea beforehand OP.

Are you allowed to have a nap during tantric sex? I am a bit of a novice here I admit, but can't even read a book if I'm laying down anymore, watching TV is also getting a bit dodge.

StarlightLady · 01/01/2024 08:05

I’d give it a go if tve opportunity arose and someone knew what they were doing.

Ilovelurchers · 01/01/2024 09:06

I have never Googled it, I expect I would be too bored by the results, but my mom told me it's just "having sexual fantasies in the same room as someone else".

I also knew that Sting likes it. Why do we all know this?

Stresa22 · 01/01/2024 09:12

Sting has massive nipples!

Wherearemybooks · 01/01/2024 09:12

I had a relationship with a guy who totally immersed all his senses in sex and, as a consequence, so did I. It was far and away the best sex and I have ever had. All of it. And it lasted a normal length of time.

That’s pretty much what is at the essence of Tantra. (though he had never heard of Tantric sex and certainly never called it that).

I fully recommend sex like that.

DelightfulDoris · 01/01/2024 09:20

Makes me think of American Pie, Paul Finch and then Stiffler’s mom 🤣

EnjoythemoneyJane · 01/01/2024 09:35

rickandmorts · 31/12/2023 15:43

Is your someone new Brian from Hull?

😂😂

Dogknowsbest · 01/01/2024 09:41

VeronicaBeccabunga · 31/12/2023 21:52

I've heard tantric sex is pretty much like booking a plumber.

You stay in all afternoon and nobody comes.

I just love this 🤣

DeKraai · 01/01/2024 09:57

I've had tantric sex a few times where my partner knew what he was doing (I was new to it, he very definitely wasn't!). I have no idea how it looks to watch - probably pretty boring. It was absolutely amazing though. Lots of techniques men need to learn! I then had a subsequent partner who was a FWB who wanted to know the techniques so I explained what was done. He seemed to study what I was saying and replicate it. Physically it was also incredible. There seemed less connection in it than with the actual tantra guy, but still the great.

Lots of women will consider all types of rough sex because they think they should but when a man mentions slow sex where the absolute worst that could happen is you're bored, not dead, it's seen as weird. I was around for Brian and yes, he definitely was weird and socially inept! But having someone focus on your entire body being pleasured, slowly, shouldn't be weird, it should be normal.

The result for me wasn't boredom. It was many, many, many multiple orgasms!!! I've been raped a few times too so can get nervous with intimacy. Having a partner who knew how to pleasure my whole body, responding to my body's movements (not "the call of his cock") was incredible. Highly recommend.

But stay away from Brian.

Indifferentchickenwings · 01/01/2024 10:32

Interesting that the people who have tried it only have positive things to say 🤷‍♀️

Tartantatooes · 01/01/2024 10:51

Ask Sting 😂

Janiie · 01/01/2024 11:13

Surely anything that intensifies sensations and provides a whole body enjoyable experience is a good thing?

No wonder we see so many 'I hate sex!/I'm in a sexless relationship but I don't care!' threads on mn, so many of you seem to have only experienced a 5 min wham bam sesh.

StarlightLady · 01/01/2024 11:15

I think to achieve the ultimate, l’d probably need a third party instructor.

oneflewoverthe · 01/01/2024 11:20

Janiie · 01/01/2024 11:13

Surely anything that intensifies sensations and provides a whole body enjoyable experience is a good thing?

No wonder we see so many 'I hate sex!/I'm in a sexless relationship but I don't care!' threads on mn, so many of you seem to have only experienced a 5 min wham bam sesh.

Edited

You can enjoy sex, and also not want to have it for hours on end concentrating on breathing in the nude. There's a middle ground!

Menomeno · 01/01/2024 11:26

I remember my very old mum talking about Sting. She said “Apparently he can have sex for hours without having an orgasm. So what? I’ve been doing that my whole life!” 😂

mildlydispeptic · 01/01/2024 11:30

Menomeno · 01/01/2024 11:26

I remember my very old mum talking about Sting. She said “Apparently he can have sex for hours without having an orgasm. So what? I’ve been doing that my whole life!” 😂

Just when I thought this thread couldn't get any better. BOOM! 😆😆😆