Anyone into tantric sex?

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Just what it says. Met someone new and he's mentioned it. Anyone any experience of this? I'm assessing whether it's out of my comfort zone!

OP please, please, please give it a go and let us all know how you get on?

😂 my children have just asked me what I'm laughing at 😳😂

Yes it's fucking amazing but the comments here have me howling!

Reminds me of the old joke: have you heard about the tantric sex position called The Plumber? You wait around all day and no-one comes 😆

I will take one for the team.

Will need to read that book from pp.

And report back? I wonder how many people started watching this thread.

People seem to misunderstand the orgasm thing. Its not about not orgasming. Its about not being goal orientated. So you focus on the pleasure of the process, rather than ( if you are a woman especially) feeling pressurised to come asap.

Honestly, being able to just lie back and relax into it, secure in the knowledge that you are with a man who actively enjoys pleasuring you, actively enjoys it taking time and isn't impatiently waiting for you to hurry up and get it over with, is just bloody brilliant.

It doesn't need to go on for hours. Its just that it can go on for as long as you need it to. No pressure.

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that photo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭

I will report back, although I'd manage your expectations...as a previous poster said, I also find it difficult to get through a whole book chapter these evenings, so I may need to start lite and work my way up.

But probably worth a go. The best outcome is feeling high as a kite. The worst...temporary cringe. And minge singe.

Lots of women will consider all types of rough sex because they think they should but when a man mentions slow sex where the absolute worst that could happen is you're bored, not dead, it's seen as weird....having someone focus on your entire body being pleasured, slowly, shouldn't be weird, it should be normal

This! Frankly, its porn that has normalised huge sections of the population to what is very weird (and male centred) sex. So much so that sex that involves indulging all your senses and focusing on how your partner is responding with pleasure is now considered 'weird' and laughable.

Good point. Think it took me a long time to work out that sex could also include meeting my needs just as much as my partner's needs. Probably why my libido dipped a lot.
Interesting to think sex is male centred. Maybe it's a good opportunity for something completely different.

One thing I would say OP was that I have just remembered that I did once have sex with a guy who boasted he was into tantric sex, and it was some of the worst sex I have ever had. No foreplay, just stuck his cock in, moved me into lots of different positions, which was annoying rather than enjoyable, and then came, with him apparently confident that his mighty cock had showed me a great time so there was no need for him to do anything else.

He was clearly a braggart idiot who saw himself as some sex God but was actually a really crap and selfish shag.

So just a warning that not everyone who says they are into tantra can walk the talk.
In his case, I think he just liked to go to tantra workshops as it was a good opportunity to perve on and with women. He clearly wasn't paying attention in any of the classes.

Hope your bloke is not like that!

Thank you. I could also ask to see his passport/ driving licence. I'm pretty confident he is a David.

My understanding is that ‘tantric sex’ isn’t a standalone thing, it’s part of a wider practice of tantra which involves spirituality and energy and all that balls outside of the bedroom as well as inside.

I quite like the idea of it, especially when a man is otherwise very ”goal focussed” but I’m not spiritual enough to really get into it.

He probably wants to pretend he’s not just after a quick shag. And of course slowing things down, focusing on connection and enjoying each others bodies is a great way to reset when things are going too quickly, but that doesn’t make it tantra, especially without an emotional connection.

One of the reasons I hesitate to gaze too long into my BF’s eyes is because I know I’ll accidentally blurt out that I love him, even though I’m not supposed to yet - and also it sends him over the edge looking into mine 😂. Definitely wouldn’t risk it with a new man!

Ahem!

Sorry, didn’t mean to nipple shame 😳

I think blokes talking about tantric sex are telling you they have ED.

This thread!!!

🤣 same!

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I did know a guy (different one to the one I previously mentioned) and he'd started practising karezza (by himself.) We got off with each other that day and it wasn't pretty. He lay there moaning and there was like a long string of translucent stuff hanging out of his knob.

Wherearemybooks

yeah
id rather men didn’t talk about sex on their profile overall !!!
but give me a tantra over a pornhub weaned self professed ‘dom’ anytime

And of course slowing things down, focusing on connection and enjoying each others bodies is a great way to reset when things are going too quickly, but that doesn’t make it tantra, especially without an emotional connection.

Cosmo and stuff have tried to make it about things like that, but I think in its original, non-western form it was about achieving a spiritual altered state of consciousness for oneself, rather than romance.

I was into that stuff in my early 20s so I might've been interested if a bloke offered. But then I got put on meds for my bipolar.

give me a tantra over a pornhub weaned self professed ‘dom’ anytime

Sometimes the same guy might alternate between the two I guess, if he sees both of them as just being interesting variations on sex, and they're part of an obsession with it.

So he practiced 'gentle and affectionate' wanking??
What a guy.