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Tinder dick pics

108 replies

Alicia88 · 15/12/2023 00:34

Is it possible to find someone on tinder that won't send a photo of their penis the second they get my WhatsApp number?

I've had it 3 times in the last 48 hrs

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AMuser · 15/12/2023 07:29

C1N1C · 15/12/2023 07:26

I'm curious now, how do you meet without a number? Surely you need one to find them or let them know you're running late etc??

Tinder has a messaging app. So you message on that.

YRGAM · 15/12/2023 07:35

annaT2122 · 15/12/2023 07:29

I would love to know the answer as well. Maybe one for the psychology experts! More understandable if they were very well endowed but they don't tend to be.

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My very kind interpretation would be that men are primarily more visually aroused than women are, and so dick pic senders are assuming that what would turn them on works for women in the inverse. It's the same theory behind why lots of men so straight to giving oral sex too early in a sexual encounter/without foreplay, because it matches what they would want.

This is a very generous explanation though. I'm sure the majority of senders do it because they enjoy making women feel uncomfortable

Roundaboot · 15/12/2023 07:39

It's absolutely not an attempt to turn women on. It's a power thing, like flashing. They can force women to look at their dicks with no consent. It's not worth replying, even with a "clever' response as some men get off on being put down. Just ignore and block.

MonikerBing · 15/12/2023 07:40

I've also never received a dick pic. Are you dating much younger men than me?

It's horrible though. Vile men.

KTSl1964 · 15/12/2023 07:47

Sorry you experienced this op - it’s not you - it’s them -take the advice re not giving out your number before meeting. Shumbags

Indifferentchickenwings · 15/12/2023 07:48

I find it hilarious how men still think women find this a turn on

they don’t
THEY find it a turn on - big time

Assuming here you are younger OP

Put it on your profile
No unsolicited dick pix

Even a few male comedians are talking about how grim this is

DaftyInTheMiddle · 15/12/2023 07:50

brainworms · 15/12/2023 01:36

My response to these pics, is to send a degloved penis pic back and wait for the shrieking.

Don't Google degloved penis unless you have a strong stomach.

Fucking hell, you’re unhinged. I LOVE IT! 😂

My go to used to be loads of laughing emojis along with “why is it so small?”

This is chefs kiss

SarcasmAndCoffee · 15/12/2023 07:50

Why do men think this is a turn on? Even if DH sent me a dick pick I’d be like “what am I supposed to do with this?”
😂😂

please tell me it’s not just me

(OP send them one back 🤷‍♀️) that will suprise them. Google must have some 😂

TheCadoganArms · 15/12/2023 07:56

Is it a power thing? Always thought it was a crass lazy 'I'm horny and will send dick pics to everyone in the slim chance that a woman will respond in kind' type of thing. Purely a numbers game in order to get an interactive wank.

bonzaitree · 15/12/2023 07:57

You could run with OP. Print their dick pics out and turn them into some modern art installation - Tracey Emin 2.0.

SquashPenguin · 15/12/2023 07:58

Just reply “Christ that’s tiny!”

kshaw · 15/12/2023 08:04

My reply has either been 'am I supposed to be impressed by this?' or 'does this tactic actually work for you?'

annaT2122 · 15/12/2023 08:06

MonikerBing · 15/12/2023 07:40

I've also never received a dick pic. Are you dating much younger men than me?

It's horrible though. Vile men.

You haven't missed out on anything...trust me.

Ablondiebutagoody · 15/12/2023 09:15

C1N1C · 15/12/2023 07:26

I'm curious now, how do you meet without a number? Surely you need one to find them or let them know you're running late etc??

You arrange a time and place and then turn up. If you are running late you can drop them a message on Tinder. It's not a problem.

DinoDays · 15/12/2023 09:35

I've been online dating many years on and off and have never received a dick pic from a Tinder match.

I am very strict who I swipe right on though. Very!

Things that are a complete no to me

  • no bio
  • topless pics (one is allowed at beach ;) )
  • any ref AT ALL to dom sub, sexual preferences

I usually only spend a day or 2 on tinder texting before requesting going over to WhatsApp.

But in those couple of days you can usually weed out the undesirables. Anything and I mean ANYTHING that makes you feel even slightly uncomfortable or is slightly inappropriate. Then delete. Delete right away.

Funnily enough I've just blocked somebody this morning. He was from Facebook dating - first and last time I'll try that!

Anyway yesterday when I said I was going to the gym he asked me for some pics in my gym kit. I told him no that's just weird. You can see me soon in the flesh when we meet for coffee.

In the evening I was going out with mates and he asked for pics of me all dressed up looking sexy. Tbh I should have blocked him then.

I'd only told him a few hours earlier I wouldn't be sending photos and he'd asked me again!!

Anyway to cut a long boring story short, this morning I did the "Good morning" text 🙄 and he replied something along the lines of that he was still in bed thinking of me and devil emoji.

Fuck that! Not met the guy yet and he's insinuating he's thinking of me while he's wanking. Blocked blocked blocked!

Sorry as you can tell I'm still pissed off!

The point of my long (boring) post is maybe see if there is a way to weed out those undesirables before moving on to WhatsApp.

Get a friend to look at your profile are you maybe, innocently saying something that could be taken the wrong way?

I just think it's unusual to get that many dick pics one after the other. I've met loads and loads of decent guys off tinder. Sadly just didn't fancy them. :(

Indifferentchickenwings · 15/12/2023 10:14

We need a website

Unsolicteddickpics.com

women can upload them (minus face or identifying details )

im sure there might be some constraints 😂

Ablondiebutagoody · 15/12/2023 10:19

You should have deleted at gym kit!

DinoDays · 15/12/2023 11:48

Ablondiebutagoody · 15/12/2023 10:19

You should have deleted at gym kit!

Absolutely!!! 100%

Think that's why I'm so bloody annoyed!!!

DinoDays · 15/12/2023 11:51

Indifferentchickenwings · 15/12/2023 10:14

We need a website

Unsolicteddickpics.com

women can upload them (minus face or identifying details )

im sure there might be some constraints 😂

Thing is, some men would love this!

Part of sending dick pics I believe can be the humiliation. That's why if you do receive them, delete and don't answer.

Saying "Is that it?" Or anything negative can be a turn on for them too.

brainworms · 15/12/2023 13:12

@DaftyInTheMiddle

Why thank you.

I never do things by halves.

emmylousings · 15/12/2023 13:17

Its just soo bizzare isn't it? Surely these men have no close female friends or family they can discuss OLD with...or they would know there is nothing remotely sexy or appealing about this!!

ChristmasTreeStar · 15/12/2023 13:35

PieAndLattes · 15/12/2023 06:51

Say, ‘Why are you sending me a picture of a child’s penis? Pervert. I’m reporting you.’ And block.

Or

’Blimey, that doesn’t look normal. what did the doctor say?’

Or just block.

Brilliant!

What is the thing with sending a picture of a dick? Its the most ugliest of things. Does just the sight of one turn women into sex starved godesses? I couldn’t imagine taking a picture of my lady bits and sending that to a random stranger! The world of dating these days sounds very very odd

annaT2122 · 16/12/2023 08:37

I do like a dick pic if I have a connection with the man and they have something worth sending. The vast majority of them are ugly. Sending them unsolicited is a major turn off and nobody should have receive them.

TheCadoganArms · 16/12/2023 09:34

I do like a dick pic

I don't know why that made me laugh.

Tonto37 · 16/12/2023 09:45

As a man I've sent them before but only when I've received nude photos from women I've been dating or if a woman has asked me. I would never ask a woman to send photos like this. It's disgusting when I hear guys put pressure on to send photos.

And yes some women have asked me for dick pics. This is been the case for some of the women who I have dated. Never has a woman asked me from the get go or after a couple of messages.

I would never send unsolicited. It is horrific.

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