dh and i have been seeinga counsellor for a few months. One very huge row ( when we hit eachothre) and several others made me realise that unless thigns change, i want us to split up. The trouble is i don't know if i'd be more miserable with out him than with him.
To summarise our relationship:
1.we haven't had sex for 8 months ( he stopped showing an interst years ago unless i iniated it) and a couple of days after the last time (which was about another 8 months since the previous time and i was very nervous) he was absolutely horrible to me - nothing to do with the sex
- He hardly ever compliments me
3, he shows little interst in what i do
- he rarely atrranges for us to do anything (he has agreed in the counselling to change this)
- His temper and things he has said and done before have clouded ( forever, i think) my feelings for him
6 I don't really look forward to spending time with him
- I don't feel appreciated
BUT on the positive side
- He is very good with ds ( 99% of the time)
- he gives me a massage most nights
- he's not controlling with money
- he earns enough that i can be a sahm and is happy for me not to work
- he's very homely ( ie not one of "go out with the lads"
6 he does things round the house
I'm just wondering if it's worth trying to improves things in view of the bad points.