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The Spookster

286 replies

spook · 12/11/2004 11:57

Hi girls.Can't post on that one so it'll have to be this one!!! Phew-close one.

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spook · 18/11/2004 14:30

Thanks W&R. Feeling quite cool with it all actually.But now I need to get the complete household expenditure off him so I can fill in my income and expenditure form. He will never ever do it for me I just know it.
What shall I put in the email?

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WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 14:44

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spook · 18/11/2004 14:47

No maintenance as yet. He pays me 700 pounds a month anyway-as he did before he left. However he is trying to cash in another 20 grand on the mortgage and my solicitor has faxed his saying fair enough as long as 10 of it comes straight to me. When he cashed in the last of our portfolio a couple of months ago (14 grand) I have just realised I saw 3 of it!

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WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 14:54

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spook · 18/11/2004 14:57

My solicitor is putting it on my list of debts that he needs to pay off!

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WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 15:01

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spook · 18/11/2004 15:02

Don't worry W&R. I think the words "cleaners" and "taking him to" were what I intimated to my solicitor this morning and she definately gets it.!

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WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 15:04

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Freckle · 18/11/2004 16:01

A word of caution here regarding costs. Hopefully Spook will get an order than d-t-p pays the costs of the action. However, the costs that the court allows are generally considerably lower than the bill your solicitor will present. This is because the court puts a ceiling on the hourly rate a solicitor can claim, but there is no ceiling on the hourly rate that your solicitor charges you. So there may be a shortfall, i.e. the difference between what your solicitor charges and the amount d-t-p is ordered to pay by the court. Hope this is clear.

Oh and I may have misled you earlier regarding legal aid and the equity in your property. It used to be the case that any property which was the subject of the action (or one of the subjects) was excluded for the purposes of legal aid. However, it used to be the case that any equity in property didn't bar you from receiving legal aid. So I'm not entirely certain what the current situation is and it may be that, although you have a share in the equity in your property which exceeds £100,000, as the property is part of your dispute, it won't be counted. Is that clear? As mud???

spook · 18/11/2004 18:04

Thanks for pointing that out Freckle. Will keep close eye on this!
So-I emailed him asking for household expenditure to which he promptly replied much to my amazemoent. But he couldn't just leave it at that. Look at what he had to add......

ADD £700 to you, £1,000 School Fees

Total out = £4357 plus your overdraft and credit cards

I earn £5,000 pcm so you do the math.

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spook · 18/11/2004 18:05

To which I replied....

Thankyou. I am sure no-one will be taking into account your lifestyle and your overdraft and your credit cards. I don't do the "math". The court is doing that.

Cheeky twat.

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Blu · 18/11/2004 18:15

Er, Spook, what happens if his business really is doing badly (i.e Sirens bombing, tee hee) And doesn't pick up really quickly? Presumably any expenditure from then on would have to soak up the proceeds from your various property sales? I'm just concerned that the longer term angle is covered and safe.

anorak · 18/11/2004 18:30

Well that's one of the reasons he's delaying everything, isn't it?

Blu · 18/11/2004 18:38

yeah, but any tactics on his part aside, what if in 2 years time, he just isn't earning the cash to pay enough to cover Spook's costs in London, school fees etc...do you know you can make enough in your new venture, Spook?

I realise that this could be a problem whatever happens, but I would be wary of setting up a lifestyle which can't be maintained without using up all the capital from property.

Sorry, I'm not being helpful at all - I'll think how to put what I mean more clearly....But it isn't just a case of introducing him to his nearest branch of Sketchleys, is it? It's about realistic and sustainable long-term planning.

spook · 18/11/2004 18:52

Hi girls.Blu-I understand EXACTLY what you are saying.
Yet again the fucker has me by the whatsits. His business and his life-I can almost guarentee it-are going to go belly up. Unless Supertramps actually do make some money in Japan. They're off there again on Nov 30th so this may be the answer. But yes. He fucks it up, I'm fucked up. And why????Because he has put all his time and money into a bunch of second-rate reality TV Geordie flesh-baring chava slappers-because he happens to be shagging one of them.
Shit for brains.

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spook · 18/11/2004 18:53

I.AM.NOT.ATALL.BITTER.

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spook · 18/11/2004 18:54

And what's Sketchleys???

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Blu · 18/11/2004 19:23

A High Street dry cleaning chain - the cleaners!

Must be horrible, wanting SuperTramps to fail in a humiliating debacle - but needing them to do well. Actually, they need to fail horribly, and he needs to spot a far more talented boy-band! maybe that's where we MN-ers should put our efforts- looking out for the next undiscovered Robbie Williams....

princesspeahead · 18/11/2004 19:26

I think we all need to go out and buy the sirens in bulk so they do really well. then a) spook will be in the money and b) once tart-face is superfamous she will dump spooks dh for someone equally famous and tart-like (like darius perhaps?!) and that would be excellent retribution.....

WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 19:30

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spook · 18/11/2004 19:32

PMSL at Tart Face!!! I would actually rather stick a fork in my eye and live with my children at the top of the shittiest tower block in the shittiest area than see Supertramps do well. But if they fuck off and do well in Japan then PERFECT! Money comes in-Katsuit is on the other side of the world hopefully dating someone from an equally shite boy band.
PLEASE don't buy the bitcj=hes n bulk.They are already so far up their own thongy arses I don't want them thinking people actually give a shit.

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spook · 18/11/2004 19:34

Hi W&R. Posts crossed honey.Was far too interested in spewing my bile about the bitches. I am making copious notes from all your advice hunny. Thankyou and I eagerly await your bill ....

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spook · 18/11/2004 19:35

Pretty sure a Supertramp has already shagged Darius TBH.

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princesspeahead · 18/11/2004 19:36

maybe we should suggest her for the next "I'm a celebrity..." so she can be made to eat larvae on a shitty little island while the rest of the participants psychologically torture her off the cliff of her sanity.... he he he

god I'm nasty

WigandRobe · 18/11/2004 19:38

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