The Spookster

[spook]

Hi girls.Can't post on that one so it'll have to be this one!!! Phew-close one.

If she's leaving the firm soon, I suspect her mind is on other things, which isn't on. What chance does she have that clients will go with her when she offers such cr*p service?

Ask her secretary who will be taking over your matter when her boss leaves and when is her boss actually leaving. She should be able to tell you that.

Oh and another thing occurred to me re legal aid. You may not in fact be eligible as it is not only income which is taken into account. If your share of the equity in your property exceeds £100,000, then you will not be eligible. Something to do with the bright sparks who dream up these rules (and presumably never have to apply for legal aid themselves) feeling that, should you need to fund litigation, you can always take out a mortgage on your property. Not sure how they expect you to obtain a mortgage when no lender will touch you without proof of an independent income. But still, they have dreamt up these rules and the rest of us have to live with them.

If your solicitor is leaving and you remain with the firm, it might be an idea to find out exactly how they expect you to fund your divorce and when they will expect payment (e.g. as you go along or at the end).

Freckle-can you not be my solicitor??

LOL! I'd love to, but you'd do better with someone a little closer to home.

Still, you have the best of both worlds this way. A solicitor to help you deal with the daily stuff, and us to ensure that they are on the ball .

Are you really too far away??

Probably couldn't get much further in England. I'm in Kent .

But that means, when you move to London, you won't be far at all .

OK-I am really really losing it. DS1 is screaming and smashing up the kitchen . DH has been a complete shit again and now I realise Ibiza has to go on the market. The last thing that meant something to me is going. I HAVE to get out of this. I am so wired I am going to snap any second. Am going to mpack up and get the boys to Ibiza for a few weeks. I have to get out of here.

Spook - calm down. Don't do anything rash. Take a few deep breaths, pour yourself some wine, give the boys a hug and think about it all xxx

I can't. It's just too much.Everything.

Just logged on. Sorry you're feeling so bad. Can you not get away just for the w/end? And get someone over this evening?

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I just can't let him keep doing this to me. I am dying inside. Am going to find some flights now.

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Oh spook, I'm so sorry things are so awful for you again. Please slow down, though. I know your ds is dreadfully torn up by everything, but taking him away may not help in the longer run. He needs as much stability as possible (and I know there's precious little of it for you all atm) but in and out of school and house-swapping may not help. Take some deep breaths, drink that wine and tell us what's happened. We're listening. [big ear emoticon]

I'm so sorry to hear this spook. Is there anyone close by that could come and stay with you all? This must be tearing you up, seeing DS1 so angry.

So sorry to hear about ds's further distress, Spook. Perhaps some time away in a warm place where you can all sit and relax and recharge your batteries is just what you all need. It won't make your problems go away, but it may make you more able to deal with them.

Hope things have settled down a bit by now.

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Hi everyone. Just been to my solicitors and OK'd slamming a court order on him and then signed my affadavit. Got in the car and "Stop Crying Your Heart OUt" by Oasis was on. One of those moments.....

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You may be so bold W&R. Money and possible court order of sale on house.

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You may be so bold W&R. Money and possible court order of sale on house.