The Spookster

[spook]

Hi girls.Can't post on that one so it'll have to be this one!!! Phew-close one.

Hi spook. Just read all yesterday's posts. All I have to say to you is:

DO NOT INVITE H TO IBIZA FOR CHRISTMAS.

Yes, I know I am shouting.

I WON:T!!!!
I promise. I think I have got to the bottom of why DS1 was so upset yesterday. They had been to see The Incredibles and apparentley the guy in it has a mid-life crisis-loses loads of weight,drive a sports car and falls for a younger blonde. Loads of stuff about the impportance of family. Connsidering he said about 5 words all afternoon I think it must definately have been thT. God-the poor poor little man.
I just hope it was uncomfortable watching for my sad bastard of an ex.

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Just saying hi, Spook, hope you're doing okay.

hope dh felt uneasy too spook. Poor ds1

What r u up to today then? Are you working full time now?

Hi girls. So so thanks for asking. DS1 has been down since Sunday.His parents evening last night and he got very upset that we were only mummy and daddy going apart so DHs PA watched the boys and we went together. I somehow bwcome a cripple when I'm with him in public when everyonme knows our story. I can't speak,or laugh or even look up. I found it very very hard and incredibly claustraphobic.Even the headmaster was trying to get me to have a glass of wine coz it was obvious I needed one! Anyway-DS1 is a genius (that I knew) but a tortured genius. Icrewdibly sensitive,vulnerable and mature. He is a troubled little soul apparentley. I got very upset coz he has always been like this and of all the children nin the world who have to go thjrough thjis he shouldn't. DH could see the effect this evening was having on me and had the good grace to hold my arm on the way out and help me on with my coat (ALL eyes were on us) and say "Well done" to me a couple of times at lwast.
DS1 and I had a humdinger of a screaming match this morning and now I feel absolutely shit shit shit and can't even put it right coz they're staying at their dads tonight.
That's my rant girls.Thanks for listening.AM typing in gloves coz am on my way to beach! XXXX

I felt so sad reading how hard it was for you at the parents meeting. Well done for getting through it though. It's good that you both went together.

Which beach are you off to? I like Great Yarmouth when we visit Blue reef. Our nearest is Redcar but I prefer Whitby, was there on Sat. I go in all weather, you can't beat it on a cool crisp day Hope you enjoy it and the sea breeze uplift you hun xx

uplifts*

btw you're bound to feel mega stressed after last night so don't be too hard on yourself for arguing with DS.

Hi Spook,

I dont think i have ever posted on one of your threads before but i always lurk on a daily basis to see how you and your 2 little beauties are doing!

I have no advice to the like of Freckle or W&R but just wanted to let you knwo that you sound like an amazing, wonderful, terrificly great person and mother and your kids are very very lucky to have you in their lives.
Your DP sounds like a complete twit (was going to say something much stronger, but dont want to speak out of turn) and he will one day realise what a mistake he has made. I'm not saying this will make any difference to his relationship with trollop girl but one day he will realise what an idiot he is and will be kicking himself for it.

Thoughts with you and your kids as always x

Hi, Spook. That must have been a very stressful experience, turning up at school together with all eyes on you.

Bldy patronising of d-t-p to say "Well done" for getting through a nasty experience which was only nasty because of his actions.

Anyway, you did do well to get through it without losing the plot. Sorry to hear how stressed DS1 is getting.

Has the sea air blown away any cobwebs?

Ah, those beach walks! Hope it did the trick.

Hi girls. Thanks for understanding about last night.Sometimes I feel like such a drama queen.Why should my little boys parents evening be so hard. But it was crippking and I really appreciate you all being there!
I had a gorgeous 2 hours on a blowy beach with just my ipod and hairy hound for company. Wonderful. God-I'll miss that when I move away

LMAO I read that as Ive just been on the beach with my ipod and my hairy mound

Peckrollover!!! My hound may be hairy but...well the least said the better. PMSL

Anyone help me with this conundrum?? Probably my gorgeous girls Freckle and WigandRobe. Just got solicitors bill for thousand pounds. How the bejesus do I pay it??????

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Hi W&R. No unfortunately the bill is itemised so I can see in all it's glory that the 6 minute phone conversation cost me 15 pounds.

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Well-its chuffing expensive for not a great deal. But aren't they all. Thay haven't done anything other than serve him divorce papers-well send them to his solicitor.

spook have you/your solicitors looked into whether you are entitled to legal aid for the divorce?

also have they ever sent you a letter setting out hourly rates/costs estimate/work they would do? or given you verbal information as to charging rates.

£15 for a six minute phone call would be an hourly rate of £150. if they have given you any costs information, were you aware of the hourly rate?

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Unfortunately MtoS my particular solicitor doesn't do legal aid. And yes-I'm pretty sure she informed me early on that she was extortionately expensive

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