I had to name change for this one.
We had a very eventful year last year (who hasn't!). It only came to me yesterday that's he's obviously depressed. He lost his relationship with his DS and not being able to drive and having to cycle 30mi a day is taking its toll. I can relate.
However, last year he also was a complete **hole to me. He sexted some random ex colleague, had a go at me twice when drunk (verbally) and when I've needed him to support me emotionally he really didn't know how to respond. As it is he's on his 2nd out 3 strikes (the previous year he used my credit card without my consent to buy his son a phone).
Out of 365 days, probably 345-350 re actually quite good, so it seems a pity to through a good relationship away because HE has issues.
I feel uncomfortable not being married so I'm a bit lost about what to do. Sorry for the rant.