Would you rather have a relationship for the rest of your life with lots of highs and lots of lows, or be single for the rest of your life?

[Dr1ppin]

Just that really. Highs are amazing, lows are pretty unbearable. Or be single forever?

Single, no brainer.

Do you mean that the cause of the highs and lows is the relationship? Then, single. I'm too old for that intense crap.

Single.

Single.

Rollercoaster relationship would wreck me.

Single or good steady relationship, for me.

Single

Single definitely. Really have no time for drama these days.

Single. No doubt.

Rollercoaster relationships are shit. Unless you really love making yourself the centre of a drama, I guess.

Single. (And at mid-50s, that is pretty much where I am, and you know what, it's pretty damn good most of the time, even if I miss sex.)

To expand: I've had the highs and lows in the past, and it's just exhausting and painful and confusing, and when you're out of it, you realise how mad it all was, and how bloody unnecessary.

I'd rather be on my own and not subject to the whims and swings of another human who supposedly loves me yet spends half the time hurting me.

That said, there are good relationships out there, with consistency and kindness, so it's a false dichotomy as well.

Depends what the Lows are? As you describe them as unbearable single seems best.

I had a relationship like that when I was 19 and had no children.
The thought of it now ... no thanks!

when I look back at some of the highs and lows I went through I wish I could give the old me a slap. I'd rather be single.

Single, no contest. Having had a few traumatic relationships in my past, I would never turn the clock back and revisit those partners...ever...you live and learn, or so you should.

Following a loving marriage which was nonetheless very difficult at times due to mental illness and which ended in death; single.

Well. I have a busy sex life. But I'm not remotely ready for a relationship as such and not sure if I ever will be.

Single. I deserve better than an emotional roller coaster and single is better

I’ve had the highs and lows. The highs only seem so high because the lows are so low. In reality, the highs aren’t that high but it just gives you something to cling to.

To answer your question - single.

Single, no question

Or you could just have a relationship that doesn’t revolve round drama and find someone where you’re both happy .... the 2 you mention aren’t the only options.

SINGLE!!

The highs only feel so good because the lows feel so unbearable.

I read somewhere that it's like someone who bangs their head off the wall repeatedly and when asked why they do it they say "because it feels so good when I stop".

Single. Love it.

Single

Single

In my experience, the highs get lower and shorter, and lows get longer and lower.

Single!

Single