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Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

929 replies

Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme · 03/07/2020 15:34

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading .Sad started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

OP posts:
Hinckers · 09/07/2020 22:37

Hurrah! How wonderful! The rest of your life starts here 🍷

How did you get him out of the house?

Percivalthebabyspider · 09/07/2020 22:37

That’s wonderful OP!
Take all the time you need to let it all process. You’re amazing!

Casablanca78 · 09/07/2020 22:37

Amazing news. Glad it all went well. Wishing you much happiness in your new home.

Wallywobbles · 09/07/2020 22:38

Fab news. Onwards and upwards

Wallywobbles · 09/07/2020 22:38

Fab news. Onwards and upwards

Icanflyhigh · 09/07/2020 22:38

I'm so pleased for you OP, well done xx

GracieLouFreebushh · 09/07/2020 22:38

Congrats OP - best wishes for a happy healthy future!!

crankysaurus · 09/07/2020 22:38

Brilliant Wine

Floralnomad · 09/07/2020 22:39

Congratulations @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme , toast the first day of the rest of your life and enjoy your new home .

CornishTiger · 09/07/2020 22:39

So pleased you are safely in new house. Do still take care about your security now.

How has he reacted?

Shatandfattered · 09/07/2020 22:40

Well done OP. How did he take it as I guess he now knows

catbellz · 09/07/2020 22:40

I'm so glad you're ok! Best wishes for your new life Star

Defenbaker · 09/07/2020 22:41

Ah, that's great news, I'm so pleased for you OP! Smile You're going to have the best weekend ever! Pour yourself another glass!

StoneCold316 · 09/07/2020 22:42

Well done op. You’ve been very brave and seem to be handling all this amazingly. Uou should be very proud of yourself.

SonjaHeniesTutu · 09/07/2020 22:42

FlowersFlowersFlowersFlowers for your new home. So happy for you OP you've been amazing!

Riv · 09/07/2020 22:42

Happy new life 🥳🍾Flowers ridiculously happy for you.
Well done. You are so amazing and strong.
Be kind to yourself over the next few weeks. You have done a very difficult thing, gone through a lot to get here and the worst is over. Let your support group pamper you a bit, you’ll be exhausted especially when the adrenaline wears off.

justasking111 · 09/07/2020 22:43

I remember your other thread. Best of luck OP sleep well.

backseatcookers · 09/07/2020 22:44

Oh OP I could cry for you! Well done!! So pleased you're safe and feeling calm, you've done so well. Thanks

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 09/07/2020 22:44

What a beautiful sight that picture is. Cheers to the rest of your life without him!

NoAdventureNoTime · 09/07/2020 22:44

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

cjcghana · 09/07/2020 22:44

DELIGHTED!!!! Not been able to sleep til we heard from you. Be proud, be very, very proud. Your children have one hell of a role model...xxxx

RandomMess · 09/07/2020 22:45
Wine
forrestgreen · 09/07/2020 22:46

Kick back and get a good nights sleep. Well done

cafenoirbiscuit · 09/07/2020 22:46

Sleep well- tomorrow your new life begins !

pemberlyshades · 09/07/2020 22:47

I've lurked on both threads. What a great role model for your kids. You brave woman. ThanksStarWineCake