Is this The Ick?

[RuffleCrow]

Been chatting with a guy for a few days, seems pretty nice. Which is probably the number one quality i'm looking for (long back story, dv etc).

Anyway, we arranged a day for a virtual date, buf not long afterwards he mentiones he had an embarassing minor medical condition. It's not the condition itself, it's the fact that he mentioned it really early on. AIBU to have cold feet?

It's IBS.

Look if it's put you off that's fine, you don't owe anyone a date or a 'chance'.

I totally get where you're coming from, nobody needs to be talking about their bowels with someone they're hoping to strike up a spark with, before they've even met.

Worms

nobody needs to be talking about their bowels with someone they're hoping to strike up a spark with, before they've even met

I don't know if you meant that to be funny TooTired but I sniggered loudly ...

still ing

What are the chances of this man being on here, OP? Really?

IBS then?

Excessive flatulence? Halitosis??

IBS, no question! I've had it for 30 years but wouldn't dream of telling someone I'd just met.

Unless I really needed to use their loo.

Just bloody tell us. It's worse than an outing hobby thread.

It must be something visible it he's telling you so early. Maybe a birthmark or a rash on his face or something? Do you know what it is?

Oh god @classiccola maybe that's it!

Just bloody tell us. It's worse than an outing hobby thread.

OP, is he...

(whispering)

... a cyclist?

Shudder.

what is the point of a thread when the main information is missing?

Its like "everyone i know hates my babys name" well what the fuck is it

Oh god no I couldn't meet a man who had mentioned his dodgy bowels or fungal toenails before we had even met. I fully admit to being very weird about other people's weird body stuff but this would totally ick me beyond repair.

Yep, my vote is for Ulcerative Colitis or something and he gave you all the gory details of beans going straight through him. Or worse still, he once had the shits in town. (I don't have it lol but these are things I've heard.)

I think I'd feel somewhat the same, it'd burst the bubble a bit. Whether I gave him another chance(s) would depend how much I was otherwise into him.

nobody needs to be talking about their bowels with someone they're hoping to strike up a spark with, before they've even met

IDK, some people are into that shit.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I associate men who unattractively divulge with men who are crap in bed. They're trying to pour cold water on you before they start, so you're not as let down when they reveal their complete ED.

If he told you early on, he probably wants to protect himself from rejection later down the line.

If it's IBS etc than it can be really really awkward and awful to navigate (esp with first date nerves or situations where he might need to use a toilet urgently etc)

If it is this... please be kind as it took some courage to tell you. He's obviously worried.

If it's a bent willy... then good luck...

I was with someone with ulcerative colitis. I found out straight away. I didn't want to hear about bleeding etc that soon.

is he vegan??

@LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

is he vegan??

Is that meant to be funny?

Is he vegan? Made me properly laugh
DH has become a vegan after 19 years together. It's fucking annoying

is he vegan??

Made me laugh Code

Is this going to be the unintentional laughter thread? [laugh]

I meant

Oh god just tell us.

IBS for sure.

Maybe its private, you don't need to tell a public forum OP.

It might be important that you know ... it really depends on how "minor" the medical issue is. It could be something he is self-conscious about. If it was IBS or something like that it would be a weird declaration (hence all the above humour which I've enjoyed), but it might be something more significant to a first date.