Is this The Ick?

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Been chatting with a guy for a few days, seems pretty nice. Which is probably the number one quality i'm looking for (long back story, dv etc).

Anyway, we arranged a day for a virtual date, buf not long afterwards he mentiones he had an embarassing minor medical condition. It's not the condition itself, it's the fact that he mentioned it really early on. AIBU to have cold feet?

COME ON. So unfair

I once went on a date with a guy who almost immediately told me that if he had to leave really abruptly then he was really sorry. He explained that he had severe nerves/stress activated IBS.

My dad has the exact same so I just felt sad for him having to put up with it and have no real choice but to tell people quite quickly.

We didn’t end up in a relationship but that wasn’t the reason at all x

OP, you have the Ick.
Move on.
No one's fault.
Move on.

Had a guy tell me all about his Crohn’s disease once, I’d only replied to his first message and he started sending me tons of links about it so I could read up. Put me off and I didn’t speak to him anymore. It was the fact he started filling me in with tons of details so early, not even had a proper chat yet! He was also very ‘I knew you’d reply, I just knew it, we’re meant for each other’, totally odd vibe. Had only said a quick hello

It might be an idea to give him the benefit of the doubt in divulging early. It must be really difficult to know exactly when to share something like that. Some might prefer it a bit later, such as yourself, and I think I might like it early on. Like to look at reality head on & make decisions. No right or wrong. Perhaps he is of the kind that thinks similar- earlier the better. I know it can be disappointing as well, in the excitement of thinking there could be something and then hearing a thing that possibly ruins it. Best wishes!

IBS or something else digestion/loo related surely... op I agree; sharing these details early doors is not the hallmark of a slick or sophisticated courting and wooing process.

So it depends if you like him enough to want to jump straight to early over-sharing of intimate medical problems before being romanced in any way.... And if not that’s 100000% understandable! I suggest instead.

I reckon he has Donald Trump mouth when he goes in for a kiss.

He leaves his washing out overnight?

What is it OP?! What a tease

A minor medical condition could mean lots of things, But the guy wouldn't be on a dating site if it was something really awful, well whatever awful could mean.

@managedmis In that case I suffer from it too

spies washing on the line that I left out last night cos I knew I would be up early and couldn't be arsed bringing it in

Defo Ibs! He's probably worried he will crap himself on your first date bless him

If not IBS, maybe something like eczema?

He has OCD that causes him to vote Tory

Turns out after reading this thread that I get the Ick more from cyclist and spiders willys/being darked on then I do from reading about medical issues.

Depends really on if he just mentioned it, in a 'I just wanna get this out here' as he didn't want to invest time if you would get the Ick in the future or if he went into lots of needless details.

It’s Piles.....how very romantic 🍇💞

It must be hard for IBS sufferers at the moment with the lack of available toilets. If it’s that, I think it will be some time before you will be able to have a real life date.

the guy wouldn't be on a dating site if it was something really awful, well whatever awful could mean.

@1forAll74 ? People with all sorts of conditions go on dating sites. If it's not something that's cleared up completely and it's been a while, they can't wait for it to competely resolve- they could be waiting for life. They have to get on with things.

Is it a physical or mental condition?

This degree of interest and naval gazing over a nothing issue like this is one of the genuine differences between the sexes in my experience.

OP - he's clearly not for you, so get on with your life. He'll also learn not overshare too early in future.

The end.

I would guess people have dumped him for it before, so he wants to cut his losses early, if indeed that's what he has to do.

If it's something like IBS, it manages your expectations re meeting up in person - he won't be able to go too far from home at the moment.

If it's ibs then he may be right in giving you warning before you meet up.

My intestines make the worst noises ever, people do sometimes comment. So maybe he was letting you know that if you hear really strange growling noises, then it's his bowel.

I know I may be reaching here.

He has a parasitic twin. It's attached to his lower half so you won't see it on video call.

Come OP, you know you can't start a thread like this and not tell us, it's against the rules.

Yes @Sparklfairy it’s annoying isn’t it? There should actually be a real rule about shit like this!