The next stage of my life WILL be better...

[Dumbledior]

New thread for me to moan...

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what he wanted was you to do what he said, pure and simple

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this is a recurring thing dior, he does it to make you feel crap

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i dont know how i can help you

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i understand that

i just wish i could do something

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somehitng has to be done

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you have to stop letting him dictate what is going on, and decide a time and a place to speak to him, and not let him put you off

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the prob is he makes you feel useless worthless etc, and it has taken your confidence to rock bottom and you feel that is all you deserve... so wont leave him or make changes, as he has knocked every last bit of confidence from you

he is horrible as such, its just the way he does it makes you feel like you are imagining it

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then stop doubting yourself and tell him that he is wrong not you

don't tie yourself up in knots over him accepting you are in the right - if you don't want to be with him, you don't want to be with him. you don't actually have to have a good reason (though obviously where chldren are involved it does tend to be a good idea of course not to dump a husband on a whim...).

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yes i can confirm this is definitely not a whim

i dont think anyone on here would be so silly as to suggest she took action if we thought it was

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oops is that mts? i thought it was a newbie who hadnt followed your story

sorry

Dior you sound SO like me in the last few years with xp. Xp was a genius at making me feel in the wrong, to the extent that I frequently ended up apologising when he had done something appalling.

The thing is, it doesn't matter who's right, who's wrong, or whether he's horrible 'enough' - you are utterly miserable, and nothing's going to change. Unless you change it.

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