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Have I been ghosted?

126 replies

ursulabear2 · 02/05/2018 17:04

I think I need a hand hold. Confused I'm struggling today with the fear that someone I was developing strong feelings for has, in fact, ghosted me.
We only met 12 days ago. After a week of chatting online and getting along brilliantly, we met for our first date. It was brief, but for me it was electric and when I got home it was to a message from him saying that he couldn't wait to see me again.
He suggested meeting again the following day. And the day after.
After 5 days of seeing each other he stayed over at my house and we DTD.
He's stayed every night since before the ghosting, so five nights in a row.
He's been extremely attentive when here with me, and when he leaves for work he would message regularly throughout the day.
The last morning he was here we had sex, he made me coffee and brought it to me in bed. Then he said about his upcoming 40th birthday and asked if I'd like to go to Italy with him. I declined, explaining they my passport is about 4 months out of date now.
He stayed another 3 hours or so, made lunch with me. Talked about future plans, was generally lovely. And then he left.
And I've not heard a sausage since. Nothing.
I don't understand why he's ghosted me, if that's what he's done.
I feel gutted and keep checking my phone constantly. I fancied the arse off him and I know I became way too invested, so how do I move on from this?

OP posts:
mzcracker · 02/05/2018 20:20

Lol that explains it.

RLOU88 · 02/05/2018 20:21

And all these people quickly saying what a dick he was and that you had been ghosted 👻 good news, OP

Onemansoapopera · 02/05/2018 20:23

Oh well. That explains it. We don't sell phone chargers oop north you see 🤔😁 unless........ It's the nutter ex using email to see if his story checks out....? Oooer (cynical arse that I am )

Onemansoapopera · 02/05/2018 20:24

Actually curious how he knows your email address now I think about it

Pompom42 · 02/05/2018 20:25

Ahh I'm so pleased

strongerthan · 02/05/2018 20:26

Pleased for you OP Grin

ursulabear2 · 02/05/2018 20:31

Oneman, my email is simple to remember. My name @ my business name. com

OP posts:
livefornaps · 02/05/2018 20:31

Excellent story!

IDrinkAndISewThings · 02/05/2018 20:32

My god, I always thought I was a pessimist until I joined mumsnet, now I’m starting to think I’m the eternal optimist in comparison to most of you lot! Or possibly just very naive?! At any rate, I’m in the innocent until proven guilty camp. Now that he knows you have his charger he should be procuring one and I expect contact to resume promptly. Good luck OP!

SmashedMug · 02/05/2018 20:33

Only on mumsnet can people be nitpicking surprised that one person knows another persons email 😂😂😂

HeedMove · 02/05/2018 20:33

Why didnt he just buy a new charger especially if he would need to be in contact with his brother to pick him up at airport from hong kong. Silly man.

Notthatwomanagain · 02/05/2018 20:38

And in two days he hadn’t borrowed or bought a new charger? How odd

Still good it’s not what you worried about

But the ex thing- not good
Why wouldnt he block her if she sends texts 30x per day?

Ohyesiam · 02/05/2018 20:42

Op I’m so happy for you!

ursulabear2 · 02/05/2018 20:45

He's got a phone, borrowed from his mum. But it doesn't have my number on it. I suppose he's been too busy to go out and buy a charger.
Anyway, funeral tomorrow and then he'll drive back down in the evening to see me he thinks. Smile

OP posts:
PurplePotatoes · 02/05/2018 20:50

Aww nice to see a "ghosting" type story with a happy ending For a change op!

pictish · 02/05/2018 20:56

Ah I’m glad he’s got in touch and all’s well.

My advice still stands though - slow down.

Sally2791 · 02/05/2018 20:58

Good news! Hope all goes well.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 02/05/2018 23:17

Now aren’t you glad you came on here and worried at us and we all told you to just bloody message him. Grin

Orlandointhewilderness · 02/05/2018 23:46

see all understandable!

IphoneX · 03/05/2018 05:42

Niiice:)))

Alpineflowers · 03/05/2018 07:47

ursulabear2-...After 5 days of seeing each other he stayed over at my house and we DTD......He's stayed every night since before the ghosting, so five nights in a row....He's been so open... sharing photos of inside his house...

This is what stood out to me in your posts.
Have you actually been to his house and If not, why not?

hellsbellsmelons · 03/05/2018 08:31

So his phone is dead.
I'm glad you got your explanation.
Hope tonight is as OK as it can be after a funeral.
Good luck.

Cockmagic · 03/05/2018 09:21

It doesn't matter if the ex is a nutter, he clearly enjoys her chasing after him or he would change his number!

Sorry but as pp said, it's love bombing then ghosting.

I've been there so not judging, but within a week he shouldn't of been staying over!

He should of took you on dates, got to know you, I think the while travel thing was too soon also, he was filling your head full of shit before he buggered off.

In future op, take it slow, maybe a date on the weekend, and don't text all day, keep yourself busy!

Cockmagic · 03/05/2018 09:22

I've just seen your update.

Make yourself a little less available op.

0ccamsRazor · 03/05/2018 09:40

Shield your heart Op, you can enjoy the getting to know him stage, just leave a bit of protection around your heart as you do so.

He may or may not be a keeper, only time will tell.

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