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Original poster

I leave today!

84 replies

Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 06:48

Today i move into my mum and dads. Stbexh is emotionally and sexually abusive. I was trying to live in the same house, amicabley. Its not working.

But my mum and dad have made room for me and the kids there. I have to get the kids to school and then meeting dad so he can help.

Since i have told him i am leaving, he has ramped up the abuse. He is telling me my teenager doesnt want to come with me until the weekend due to some school work she has.

Once i get her to mums she will be happier there. But its actually getting her there.

I have 1 hour left where he could hurt me, before thw school run. Pls hold my hand. I am so scared.

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Pengggwn · 05/12/2017 06:50

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category12 · 05/12/2017 06:50

Flowers you can do this.

Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 06:57

Thank you. My dd (7) is excited to to be with me at mums. We are going to have a movie night with dad, while mum is at work.

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Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 06:58

Sorry, posted too soon.

I just hope i can get dd to come with me. At 14 i cant make her. Its killing me.

OP posts:
Cantchooseaname · 05/12/2017 07:04

60 mins, then freedom. How good is that going to feel?
Hope you get sorted.

SparklingSnowfall · 05/12/2017 07:04

You can do this OP, today is the first day of the rest of your life Thanks

BackInTheRoom · 05/12/2017 07:20

Ring the police if he comes anywhere near you. Don't see it as escalating the drama, see it as asserting yourself and creating a new boundary that it's not going to happen anymore! You got this, I'm holding your hand 💐

Buggeritimgettingup · 05/12/2017 07:23

Another hand here. You have less than an hour now you can do this xx

overnightangel · 05/12/2017 07:24

Good luck x

Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 07:26

Thank you. He has got up. I am gettong things ready in my room.

Thanks for the hand hold and support. I will definitely call the police if anything happens. I am praying he just lets me leave in 20 mins. He wont dare do anything with my dad here.

20 mins to go.

OP posts:
Velvetbee · 05/12/2017 07:26

I'm here too. You can do this.

WhooooAmI24601 · 05/12/2017 07:27

Hand holding and gentle hugs. You can absolutely do this. Leave and never, never go back. Flowers

Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 07:27

Oh and just lppked in my jewellery box and my wedding ring has disappeared. I dont wear it. I am not asking him what he has done with it. I am just letting it go

OP posts:
RhinoGirl · 05/12/2017 07:30

Here OP, another hand hold.
The minutes will fly by, stay strong you can do this.

Bummybum · 05/12/2017 07:32
Thanks

Almost there.

Hernameisdeborah · 05/12/2017 07:37

You can do this xxx

Ilovewillow · 05/12/2017 07:38

You've got this! Stay strong! Thanks

rizlett · 05/12/2017 07:40

You're making good choices op.

Bobbins43 · 05/12/2017 07:40

You are incredibly brave and this is the first step to bigger and better and brighter things for you all. Hold your nerve. We're all here for you x

iggleypiggly · 05/12/2017 07:41

Wow, how amazing are you. Here is to the start of a new happy and safe life Flowers

twotired · 05/12/2017 07:42

You can do this OP. Be very proud of yourself, you are doing something great for you and your DC Thanks

GeekyWombat · 05/12/2017 07:46

You don’t want your wedding ring anyway. Ignore the mind games. This is the beginning of the rest of your life. Not long now.

KarenW · 05/12/2017 07:51

Hand holding here too! What a daft thing to do, taking the wedding ring, unhinged nutter .. good luck in the next step of your lifeFlowers

The12DaysOfChristmasArentInNov · 05/12/2017 07:55

I hope you are out safely.

The12DaysOfChristmasArentInNov · 05/12/2017 07:56

You can do this. Making the decision to leave was incredibly brave. Well done.

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