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I leave today!

84 replies

Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 06:48

Today i move into my mum and dads. Stbexh is emotionally and sexually abusive. I was trying to live in the same house, amicabley. Its not working.

But my mum and dad have made room for me and the kids there. I have to get the kids to school and then meeting dad so he can help.

Since i have told him i am leaving, he has ramped up the abuse. He is telling me my teenager doesnt want to come with me until the weekend due to some school work she has.

Once i get her to mums she will be happier there. But its actually getting her there.

I have 1 hour left where he could hurt me, before thw school run. Pls hold my hand. I am so scared.

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dizzycatdance2 · 05/12/2017 07:57

Good luck op

Witchofthenorth · 05/12/2017 07:58

Here with you too, you can do this. Keep strong you wonderful woman Thanks

Groovee · 05/12/2017 07:58

Good luck x

beyondworriedmum · 05/12/2017 07:58

Good luck OP! 💐

Undercoverbanana · 05/12/2017 07:59

Brave, brave lady. Cheering you on.

NaiceBiscuits · 05/12/2017 08:00

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Cockmagic · 05/12/2017 08:02

You're very brave and setting an excellent example to your children.

You can do this.

Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 08:06

I am my mum and dads. Dad will be coming with me to get my stuff.

I am out and i am safe. Thank you all. The relief is incredible.

OP posts:
Tinselistacky · 05/12/2017 08:06

My teen ds saw df for his true colours and your dd will too. Good luck. All rooting for you op.

Gotthetshirt23 · 05/12/2017 08:06

Good luck 💐

MessyBun247 · 05/12/2017 08:10

Flowers you are doing brilliantly OP! Stay strong!

TheMaddHugger · 05/12/2017 08:11

Another hand to hold OP

I leave today!
TheMaddHugger · 05/12/2017 08:12

Olicity17
I am my mum and dads

that's Wonderful OP

NaiceBiscuits · 05/12/2017 08:14

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MammothMountain · 05/12/2017 08:14

Well done, the relief must be incredible. Flowers

OurMiracle1106 · 05/12/2017 08:16

Couldn’t read and run. Hope you got through they awful hour and are happily doing the school run now. Think of that hour as the darkest hour- now you are heading towards the light.

Congrats on getting out Flowers

calzone · 05/12/2017 08:20

What's happening with dd?

Well done op.

NaiceBiscuits · 05/12/2017 08:29

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user1497997754 · 05/12/2017 10:31

So pleased for you....keep strong....take care....big hugs for you

Allthebestusernamesaregone · 05/12/2017 10:35

Well done OP. Here's to the start of your new happier life Flowers

MadisonAvenue · 05/12/2017 10:39

Well done, sending my very best wishes for a much happier future Flowers

hellsbellsmelons · 05/12/2017 10:43

Well done.
You deserve the freedom so much.
Really pleased your parents are supporting you with all this.
I hope DD will want to be with you but you'll just have to play that one by ear.
Another massive well done.
You are truly awesome.
Here's to your new found freedom!!

debbs77 · 05/12/2017 10:47

Such an amazing post!!!

Original poster
Olicity17 · 05/12/2017 17:00

Hi everyone. Its been a manic day. Mostly unpacked. Mum and mr are just making dinner together. Ds is here. Dd opted to stay with her dad until saturday. I said thats fine but i am here if she changes her mind.

@NaiceBiscuits thank you for all that info. I have saved screen shots of it for future. I have told him that i will not communicate face to face. He tried to get me to have a converstaion last night. I was at a friends and would only communicate by text. He wont write anything i could use against him. He knows anymore abuse will end with my calling the police.

Right now. I am safe and happy. I would prefer dd to be here. But i dont know what i can do to make her come here sooner.

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Tedster77 · 05/12/2017 17:07

Well done. I’m so happy for you. I wish our Mum could have done this for us when we were little. Stay strong xxx

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